Do some women like being controlled in the bedroom? If so, why?
Hi. I'm just starting to date a girl (early 20's). I'm slightly older. We both care about eachother and the relationship is off to a good start. We've moved from flirting to kissing to sexual activity and I'm taking things slow because she grew up pretty sheltered. Im not her first boyfriend but she hasn't had many and I take it that the ones she has had have been duds in the sex department because she does t seem to know much about it. Basically she leaves everything to me - which is new to me, but fine because I really care about her. It's almost like she's never really opened up with a guy before, probably because the way she was raised. Think strict, slightly religious.
She's smart and sweet but I can tell she wants to let her sexuality out but doesn't know how. Too shy, reserved. Doesn't trust herself to let go. Worried about pleasing me. She seems to want me to give her direction - once again, new to me but ok because I care about her. But Ive never had that type of sexual relationship before. Almost like dom\sub but I doubt she even knows what that is.
Does anyone have experience with this dynamic? I want to give her that she wants, but I dont really understand the mindset, ie what is she thinking? Does shy/band camp types have fantasies of doing x or y? How do I lead without coming off the wrong way. Or IS there a wrong way? Why do certain girls like being told 'now do this' or 'not yet' etc.
In short, do some women like for the man to control sex - and I do mean control. That's what she seems to want. Like she likes pleasing me. Very sweet - I think? But totally new to me.