AITA for sushing my gf in public?
I was driving with my girlfriend in the passenger seat a few days ago. We were stuck at a busy intersection in traffic. There was a young woman trying to turn across traffic and she seemed hesitant even though there was a gap, so I waved her through.
Instead of going, she slowly crept forward and kind of froze. At that point another car was coming closer, so I waved more urgently and beeped my horn once to basically say “go now.” She finally went, but really slowly, and got T-boned by the oncoming car.
Nobody was seriously hurt thankfully, but both cars pulled over. I stayed because I have a dashcam and wanted to give the footage to the cops and the other driver.
While we were standing there waiting, my girlfriend suddenly said pretty loudly, “You did that on purpose.” She started arguing with me right there in front of everyone saying I pressured the girl into going when it wasn’t safe.
I immediately shushed her because from the outside it probably sounded like she was accusing me of intentionally causing the accident. I didn’t want the cops or drivers getting the wrong idea.
The driver passing through admited fault and was shaken up and crying but did not accuse me of anything and said she was a new driver.
Now she’s angry because she says I embarrassed and silenced her in public. She also brought up another incident from a few months ago where I waved someone through and there was another accident afterwards. She claims I “keep doing this to young women” specifically and that it’s messed up. I think that’s ridiculous because I wave people through all the time, including men, and I was genuinely trying to help traffic move along.
She thinks the shushing was disrespectful and controlling. I think accusing me of intentionally causing an accident in front of strangers was way worse. AITA?