How dating actually is hard!
Disclaimer- This is a rant/vent/awareness post of sorts
Dating has been exhausting for people like me, who are looking for something serious. I have been in the dating bandwagon for a couple of years (tried looking for something serious organically and on dating apps too) and the type of people I have come across has made me skeptical of the whole dating/serious relationship situation.
The egotistical folks- as the name suggests, they exist just to disagree with your opinion. "The sun is yellow", you claim, and they condescendingly point out,"No, the color changes accordingly, that's common knowledge! You don't even know this?" These people constantly berate you and dates with these people feel suffocating. You just wait for the date to end. You just wait for the conversation to end. These people have a permanent place in your blocklist.
The ghosters- there is a low-effort vibe and some chemistry with these people, and maybe some of these people even go on dates until they ghost you painfully either for a better option or simply because they weren't feeling it. Honestly, even a slightly awkward, poorly worded “not interested” would be better than being left to overanalyze silence like it’s some kind of personality test you failed.
The "one" until they aren't- The type with whom you actually click and see something serious with. Time flies by with them. Maybe you spend a considerable amount of time with them, think about them when a romantic song pops up your social media feed or want to know their birth details hoping your kundali matches with them, because you really want things to work out. Until, caste, abba-nahi-manenge, religion and whatever jackshit is there to make sure if you even manage to find someone according to your liking in this hellhole of uncertainty, you shouldn't be able to get them 🥰 Also, different career aspirations. This trope hurts like hell. And pushes you into a state of despair.
The confused folks- this specie is particularly very common on dating apps, of any kind. They mention something on their profile and demand another thing in your dms. Confused folks want the comfort of a relationship with the situationship/friends tag. They deserve to be banned on dating apps.
The entitled dater - these set of people expect the world and yet contribute the bare minimum like it's a generous donation. What does a normal person want? Maybe someone driven and ambitious? Maybe someone from the same career to ensure compatibility and decent looks? The entitled dater, however, wants someone with the looks of a celebrity, the academic pedigree of an Ivy League/IIT/NIT topper, and the wealth of a billionaire mogul - basically Ambani-level fortune, Bollywood-level charm, and wall street-level success all in one package.
I know, the first post on a dating subreddit shouldn't be about the fish in the sea, it's for you to test it out. But still, I felt this post is necessary to make people aware of "what's out there" and to assuage my incapability of finding someone and maybe possibly resorting to the arrange marriage bandwagon, which is another circus in itself.
Best of luck to you guys!