I (19F) Finally Found My Father
I (19F) have been living with just my mother for my entire life. I had a father figure in my life until he passed away in 2017, but my biological father was not around and I knew absolutely nothing about him. My mother had always avoided the conversation when I would ask about him, saying “I’ll tell you when you’re older.” Since I am older now, I asked her again and she finally told me.
For context, my mom informed me that my her and my dad were more of a hookup situation, and that he knows I exist and met me after I was born but never came back after that. He went back to his ex and they got engaged. That is the extent of her knowledge.
I had never really had any interest in meeting him or anything, I always felt that if he doesn’t want to be a part of my life then I don’t want to be a part of his. There was no resentment, just simply no desire. Especially after 20 years, if he wanted to reach out he would have. However, after my mom told me his name, about him, showed me what he looks like, I suddenly wanted to meet him. I saw a resemblance in our faces and it was such an odd feeling.
My concern is that I know he never wanted a part in my life, and I don’t want to burden him by reaching out.
I don’t know what to do because this is such an odd situation, so I figured I would come on Reddit and ask strangers who may relate or just generally have advice.