u/AcquaWaterfall

Hi everyone, I made a post on here yesterday about my questioning and realised that I didn't really mention something that's probably quite important, and I thought it warranted its own post, which is:

How do any of yall who are neurodivergent (in my case ADHD and probably Autism (not formally diagnosed but my psychiatrist said it was likely)) separate your hyperfixation with other topics from your gender, cos at the moment I feel like i'm becoming obsessed with the idea of transitioning, and subconsciously retextualising things that might not be gender dysphoria through the lens of gender dysphoria. For example, I don't like my body hair, is this dysphoria or just a sensory thing? idk.

I'm just worried that a fixation on this topic that for a neurotypical person would be a clear indication of being trans, for me is just my brain latching onto a random topic and becoming obsessive over it. The only thing that makes me think otherwise is just how weird a topic it is to get obsessed over, It's not like The Titanic, or Dinosaurs, or Anime, which are things that neurotypical cis people are generally interested in.

Idk.

As per usual, I appreciate any responses.

Edit: Spellign

Hi all,

I have been questioning my gender for about 2 weeks now, but I've questioned multiple times for varying durations over the past 4 years or so, the first time being the most intense and prolonged.

what concerns me is the circumstances of my questioning and what it could mean. I tend to start questioning almost exclusively after seeing a trans person or character in some form of media or in real life, then if enough time passes I kinda fade back into my life as a cis man and don't really question it any longer. I don't really remember my childhood at all so I don't know if I ever questioned as a child, though I do remember that I was kinda a transphobic dick when I was like 14 so probably not then.

Another concern (and the reason for the NSFW tag cos I don't know how strict yall are with it is that I am incredibly turned on by gender swap scenarios and the general idea of being a woman in a sexual context.

This would all be fine if I could truly say that I would want to be a woman, but in truth I'm not really sure, I can say that there are masculine aspects of my body that I dislike, and I think I'd prefer to be a woman in regular contexts, but it's not like a "yes, definitely" sort of situation. And i've never really been all that masculine as a guy so I don't think theres much I'd wanna do from a social perspective that I couldn't just do right now if I had the guts to be a bit gender non-conforming. When presented with the famous "magic button" conundrum, I'm genuinely not sure if I'd press it if it was irreversible, though I would smash that shit if I could go back after trying it.

The point I'm trying to make is that I don't consciously "want to be trans to be quirky/ for the sake of change/ for sexual reasons" but I'm just concerned that the questioning being triggered by seeing other trans people could lead to me subcosciously latching onto that, especially since I have a history of latching on to seemingly random topics and becoming obsessed with them, combine that with the fact that I feel kinda "good, but not like the best thing ever" about the idea of being a woman kinda throws me for a loop.

I'd appreciate literally any insight at the moment because I'm kinda losing my mind with indecisiveness atm.

Hi all,

I have been questioning my gender for about 2 weeks now, but I've questioned multiple times for varying durations over the past 4 years or so, the first time being the most intense and prolonged.

what concerns me is the circumstances of my questioning and what it could mean. I tend to start questioning almost exclusively after seeing a trans person or character in some form of media or in real life, then if enough time passes I kinda fade back into my life as a cis man and don't really question it any longer. I don't really remember my childhood at all so I don't know if I ever questioned as a child, though I do remember that I was kinda a transphobic dick when I was like 14 so probably not then.

Another concern (and the reason for the NSFW tag cos I don't know how strict yall are with it is that I am incredibly turned on by gender swap scenarios and the general idea of being a woman in a sexual context.

This would all be fine if I could truly say that I would want to be a woman, but in truth I'm not really sure, I can say that there are masculine aspects of my body that I dislike, and I think I'd prefer to be a woman in regular contexts, but it's not like a "yes, definitely" sort of situation. And i've never really been all that masculine as a guy so I don't think theres much I'd wanna do from a social perspective that I couldn't just do right now if I had the guts to be a bit gender non-conforming. When presented with the famous "magic button" conundrum, I'm genuinely not sure if I'd press it if it was irreversible, though I would smash that shit if I could go back after trying it.

The point I'm trying to make is that I don't consciously "want to be trans to be quirky/ for the sake of change/ for sexual reasons" but I'm just concerned that the questioning being triggered by seeing other trans people could lead to me subcosciously latching onto that, especially since I have a history of latching on to seemingly random topics and becoming obsessed with them, combine that with the fact that I feel kinda "good, but not like the best thing ever" about the idea of being a woman kinda throws me for a loop.

I'd appreciate literally any insight at the moment because I'm kinda losing my mind with indecisiveness atm.

Hi all,

I have been questioning my gender for about 2 weeks now, but I've questioned multiple times for varying durations over the past 4 years or so, the first time being the most intense and prolonged.

what concerns me is the circumstances of my questioning and what it could mean. I tend to start questioning almost exclusively after seeing a trans person or character in some form of media or in real life, then if enough time passes I kinda fade back into my life as a cis man and don't really question it any longer. I don't really remember my childhood at all so I don't know if I ever questioned as a child, though I do remember that I was kinda a transphobic dick when I was like 14 so probably not then.

Another concern (and the reason for the NSFW tag cos I don't know how strict yall are with it is that I am incredibly turned on by gender swap scenarios and the general idea of being a woman in a sexual context.

This would all be fine if I could truly say that I would want to be a woman, but in truth I'm not really sure, I can say that there are masculine aspects of my body that I dislike, and I think I'd prefer to be a woman in regular contexts, but it's not like a "yes, definitely" sort of situation. And i've never really been all that masculine as a guy so I don't think theres much I'd wanna do from a social perspective that I couldn't just do right now if I had the guts to be a bit gender non-conforming. When presented with the famous "magic button" conundrum, I'm genuinely not sure if I'd press it if it was irreversible, though I would smash that shit if I could go back after trying it.

The point I'm trying to make is that I don't consciously "want to be trans to be quirky/ for the sake of change/ for sexual reasons" but I'm just concerned that the questioning being triggered by seeing other trans people could lead to me subcosciously latching onto that, especially since I have a history of latching on to seemingly random topics and becoming obsessed with them, combine that with the fact that I feel kinda "good, but not like the best thing ever" about the idea of being a woman kinda throws me for a loop.

I'd appreciate literally any insight at the moment because I'm kinda losing my mind with indecisiveness atm.