u/Acrobatic-Target-750

30-day assessment is in

30-day assessment is in

Moved mom to MC this week because she started trying to elope a couple weeks ago. Made it to the door with a few things a couple times. I asked that she be tested for a UTI. Results came back today. She has a “slight” infection and it’s being treated. Ofc now I’m wondering if that was the cause of her sudden change. The wellness director said it’s not enough to cause eloping. How much is enough then? In any case, she’s never had a UTI, but I fear this will be her life now with incontinence issues. I’m still struggling to find briefs that don’t leak.

MC is only a few hundred dollars more per month and there are less residents there, so maybe it was a good move anyway. She gets more attention. She’s also still able to go out to the dining area and eat with her AL friends, and participate in activities and outings. And I feel less stressed knowing she’s not 1 of many and now just a few. They don’t have phone lines back there though so I need to mount her iPad to her desk so she can hopefully use it without losing it and stay connected to the outside world. She may have forgotten how to make calls, but I think she can answer them. I set it up for assistive access so limited apps and big buttons. I’m able to control her TV from home, too, so if she’s in her room and the staff forget to turn it on, I can do that and change channels and volume when it’s close to bedtime. She starts getting into things when she has nothing to do.

That’s all. Just wanted to share and get some thoughts on the UTI.

EDIT - TV setup - https://www.linknlink.com/products/eremote-ha-ir-remote-home-assistant-mqtt - requires a TV with IR remote

Mom has a Roku and I have a LinknLink. $12 but shipping from China was $10. Well worth it since it helps calm her and CGs sometimes forget to turn it on. The only thing that sucks is I have to have my camera aimed at least slightly on the TV to see what I’m doing. I haven’t yet taken the time to finish programming it because I have to do it when I’m there.

u/Acrobatic-Target-750 — 9 hours ago

PO questioning me when I tell her facts

PO: Can you update the label on this field?

Me: Done.

PO: Oh, the field is on this other record type and needs to be updated too!

Me: We don’t have duplicate fields.

PO [sends image]: Then why do I see it here?

Me: Because you didn’t refresh the page. Trust me, we don’t create duplicate fields. That’s what *record types and dynamic pages are for.

PO [moves ticket to ready for release]: 🦗 🦗 🦗

Seriously? I guess my mistake was in not telling her to refresh her page in the first place. Silly me thought attaching the image showing the change and saying “done” was sufficient.

*yes, I know RTs are passe.

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u/Acrobatic-Target-750 — 9 days ago

Every time I try to fall back on my faith, I get thrown for another loop and I just wonder if God is really there.

I sat down with the team at my mom’s AL to voice my concerns about her care. I’m there every other day but after almost 3 weeks I am just now hearing about her wandering at night and sundowning. Apparently she rolled another resident around in circles around the community. I’m finding that hard to believe. I talk to the staff whenever I go and nobody told me that! All they tell me is she’s really sweet. I’m just supposed to believe what the leadership team says? The last couple of days she’s been packing to go home. I see her on camera and then call to talk her down but it doesn’t change anything. It’s almost time for the 30-day reassessment and they’re talking about MC. I was upset she missed a shower last weekend but today was told she refused a it 3x but I don’t have anyone on camera offering her a shower let alone 3x. I’m never getting any rest or getting over this anxiety am I?

EDIT - I truly believe they get you in there and then just start making stuff up to increase the cost. Because you’re kinda stuck at that point..

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u/Acrobatic-Target-750 — 16 days ago

I’m an only child. I am my mom’s guardian. I am her healthcare and LTC advocate. I cannot count on anyone in our family stepping up. What would happen to her if I became incapacitated or died? Who would fight for her? Would she become a ward of the state? I feel like I need to plan for this contingency. I never bought life insurance because I have no spouse or kids. But should I make plans for an executor or something? Yes it’s late and I know I’m over-thinking.

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u/Acrobatic-Target-750 — 19 days ago

I am sitting here stressing tf out. I checked my mom’s camera tonight (I’ve been much better about not checking it all the time) because I was curious about her shower. No shower tonight. But I remembered it was 1st shift assignment. So I scrolled back through the day and they didn’t shower her today! I asked 2nd shift about it and was told it was switched to Sunday. So they just treat these shower days like they don’t matter and it’s pissing me off. It’s inhumane and an affront to her dignity! They’re also supposed to take her to the bathroom every few hours and they don’t. She’s been better about going when she has to, but I have no way of knowing if she’s cleaning herself well.

Why the heck is she paying all of this money?! If they’re not going to shower her or make sure she’s wiping herself, they need to take that off the bill and I’ll hire a private caregiver to come in! God this was supposed to make life easier but it’s not! I’m sick of having to babysit these people. And why do I have to tell them to close the damned blinds after they give her her bedtime meds?!

EDIT - people, she is NOT refusing her showers. As I said I went through the video recordings. Showering is not even mentioned.

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u/Acrobatic-Target-750 — 20 days ago