First date
First date
I (22m) have recently put myself back in the dating scene and specifically dating with intention. I had a lot of mental health issues and trust issues after my first relationship when I was young because I didn’t exactly know how to build myself up from that situation . I’ve been extremely blessed with the help I’ve gotten so far and how far I’ve come. I got a match on hinge about 2 weeks ago 20(F). I used some of my sappy lines to make her laugh in her profile and by the end of the night she just asked if I wanted her Snapchat or Instagram so we can keep talking. Of course I took her up on her offer and over the two weeks we hadn’t really missed a day texting eachother . We both have our own lives with work so obviously it was on our breaks or when we could sneak our phone / when we weren’t working . Things really have been amazing I won’t lie I’ve shared a lot so far with her because I don’t like ever missing on telling someone something that gives them the full picture before they make up their mind . Our original idea was to have a date next week when we both had a full day off, then this week we ended up having our first “spicy” conversation by coincidence because I brought up books I like and of course she likes romance stuff haha . She sort of seemed more excited after that and as my day went on at work yesterday she had plans that had cancelled for her day off. I figured I’d ask to hang out because the worst she could say is she prefers a full date or that she’d rather just relax which I woudl understand. That did not happen , we scheduled a date where I basically went home cleaned up and drove straight over to her to hang out . Honestly I was terrified because I’ve had dates in the past that have been cut short because the girl just wasn’t interested and that hurt a lot. I picked her up from her house , we went to Walmart and got a pack of cards , played all kinds of games in the park like rummy and sort of casually flirted while talking about eachother and stuff in our lives . I’d occasionally make the more explicit remarks (in good taste) just because we had a little bit of those convos and she liked teasing a bit so it was fun , then we went to go get some dinner because she said she was hungry and I was happy to oblige . While eating in the parking lot the conversation shifted again to that but this time she was playing along heavy . Talked about wearing her thighs as ear muffs etc. then she made the remark we should go back to her place with some sly reason. I hesitated a lot to the point of saying “ I have to hear you say you absolutely want this” because before coming into the date I sort of said if she offered something like that I’d refuse and only really give in if she gave me explicit consent and really seemed like she wanted too. It wasn’t because I didn’t want sex or didn’t find her jaw dropping , I’m just terrified that something that feels very special could have been ruined for a short night of lust. So at this point we started at 5pm and by 8 we were at her place knocking boots. I had asked her when I needed to go because she had work tomorrow + she lives in a place where people come into work in the morning (office space made into a room ). She said that realistically sometime closer to midnight but I could stay as long as I wanted to as long as I was out by 5. I didn’t want to leave . I didn’t care about more sex this girl just. She hit the spot, she made me feel energetic and like I had just shared a year of burden off my shoulders in a night . Safe to say I stayed in bed with her and she fell asleep next to me while we watched tv . I stayed up because obviously I didn’t want to get her in trouble or anything . Left at 5 am and she woke up I said good bye and gave her a kiss . Sent a Text on my way out telling her how beautiful I found her and that the night really was something I would absolutely never forget . She responded with the usual be safe getting home and thank you so much . Then also said she had so much fun . So all this build up to ask the question did I make a mistake by agreeing to going to her place instead of insisting on avoiding sex on a first date or is there some relationships that have enough chemistry from the start that it makes no difference? I really like her and I just don’t want to look anymore. I feel I found the one that has all the qualities I want. I just don’t want to come off as a sleaze ball