u/AcrobaticHorizon

I'm having this problem where when I interact with people I'm always trying to figure out how to avoid making them sad or let down or annoyed. I'm always trying to guess what they want so that they don't feel bad because I don't want to ruin things for them. But it takes too much time and it gets too much of me guessing what they want. It's especially a problem when I sense I matter a lot to the other person and may strongly affect them emotionally. How am I supposed to actually think about these things in a healthy way which is still kind and good for everyone?