u/Acrobatic_Pool_9841

I'd like to hear from those of you that have a difficult stoma. I'm a bit chubby (probably not for long) and my skin folds make it impossible to change my flange in a sitting or standing position (still have a bit of surgical paralysis - not sure why that happens to me - everytime I have a small surgery my legs go) so I'm changing my flange/wafer laying down. This inevitably causes it to be off a bit. I'm going to take my time today and change it without missing a step. I use barrier rings. It doesn't leak, but stool is pancaking. I'm going to really measure the stoma (keeps changing size). I've watched all the YouTube videos. I still get frustrated with mushy stool.

How do those of you with inset or on the surface stoma, make your changes without being off? I need this one to be right. I've been up all night with mushy, pancaking stool. I did just rinse the stoma, but it starts right up again. I think metamucil is going to be a daily thing for me. What do you use to keep your stool going it the bag like it should? I also use oil, which helps a bit. Any suggestions? Different type of system? Pre-cut? This is going to bankrupt me...

So, I'm new to this and in the hospital/rehab they said I could eat whatever I wanted. I'm slowly learning this is not the case.

I had a pretty big turkey cutlet dinner last night, and today I woke up to really mushy stool. Its crowding the cutout hole (the hole is big enough and I have a circular barrier under it). It's not leaking, but the stool isn't moving down the bag. I have some oil in the bag so that it doesn't get stuck, but it's WAY stuck. I keep having to change bags (not the flange) and I'm literally scooping out the stool from my stoma area with a small spoon. Then ANOTHER BAG. WTF do I do? I can't keep going through bags like this. Imodium? No matter how many times I clean it, it still keeps coming. IDK what to do.