u/Actual_Giraffe_2633

My boyfriend’s birthday is today and I really wanted to be the first person to wish him at 12. I was already on call with him before midnight and had even written something heartfelt that I wanted to read to him which I told him about.

But literally one minute before 12 he suddenly said his friend was calling and kept telling me to wish fast because he wanted to pick up her call. I felt really bad because I wasn’t even getting a proper moment with him. I just wanted a few minutes of his attention.

When I later told him it hurt my feelings he explained that this was a friend of 15 years calling him and she calls him every year and that he just wanted to get done with all the birthday wishes quickly. He also said that after talking to he came back to me and asked what I had written for him.

Now I’m confused whether I’m overreacting because technically he did come back and wanted to listen later or whether my feelings are valid because the moment itself felt rushed and unimportant. AITK for feeling hurt over this?

Am I the kameena for feeling jealous and hurt because my boyfriend keeps liking this one particular college junior’s pictures and videos literally almost all of them?

What makes it worse is that he once told me he sees himself in her like they have similar qualities and love for travelling….

On top of that he has also told me before that some of the qualities he prefers in a girl are things I don’t naturally have and then asked me to change myself according to what he likes.

Now whenever I see him constantly engaging with her posts I can’t help but feel insecure and wonder if I’m overreacting or if my feelings are valid.

I’m not upset just because he liked someone’s pictures. It’s the pattern, the comparison and the fact that he has already made me feel like I’m somehow lacking….

Am I being insecure and unreasonable here?