How does one get started with wedding planning when everyone wants something different?
My long time partner (43m) and I (38f) are considering getting married. This is his 2nd marriage and first for me. He doesn't want to do much beyond going to the court to register our marriage. My mother has her heart set on getting in at least some sort of Arya Samaj type hawan. I don't care for it. I'm happy to go the court route. But I do want there to be some celebration. Some of my friends have told me over the years that they'd love to come for my wedding and I'd like to honor that. The one time I tried to speak to my partner about wedding planning, he went off on a rant about how hard it was for him the first time around. I'm feeling a bit lost. I want a small thing where I invite close friends - people who meant a lot to me. But I'm afraid that if I tell this to my mother, she'll try to invite at least half my cousins. I don't want that. I don't know where to start. What should be my strategy? Help!!