Am I wrong for cutting off what I thought was my bff?
I (23f) have been friends with this girl (27F) for about 3 years. From the jump, I noticed she was kind of shady/sneaky like, she even created a fake account when we first started hanging out just to pretend to be a guy and talk to me but I’m the type to just stay quiet and observe, so I never told her anything and I let it slide I lowkey wanted to see what other lies she would tell me
It would take me days to tell you guys all the lies that this girl said but I’m gonna explain why we got to this point.
We both have similar aesthetics, same background and I thought we had a similar personality but I always felt like she tried to make me look ridiculous when we were out. For a long time, I actually felt like the "ugly friend" because she’d always be the one getting approached and she’d act so confident, while I was just… there. And she would always use that to make me look ridiculous. My mom warned me years ago that she was jealous, but I didn't want to believe it. I valued her company and she was the first friend I really felt comfortable with.
Things started to get really toxic when we both got boyfriends around the same time. Her guy is a total "fuckboy" who treats her like trash, while mine is great. I’ve tried to give her advice, but she just keeps sabotaging her own life. She started trying to ruin my relationship too, constantly pushing me to break up with him having opinions about him (mind you I never once said anything about her man even when she told me about eveyrhing he had done even supported her when she decided to take him back) I eventually had to take my distance because it got to a point where she was constantly embarrassing me in front of him, everyone and just being extremely shady towards me.
I’m ngl before this even happened I’ve been avoiding her and not hanging out with her bc while we were at a car meer she started yelling out loud how I was obsessed with my mans dck and just embarrassed me really bad and even after that I was being nice and still talked to her but never hung out with her again.
But the breaking point for me was when she sent me photos of expensive bday gifts claiming her guy got them for her. Which mind you I don’t care that she faked this, it’s about the fact she took her time to get a reaction out of me and for what ? I genuinely was happy for her gave her a genuine reaction which she didn’t even replied to, she told me a whole story about how this went down and I was so excited for her until a couple days later the exact same photo she sent me appeared on my fyp on TikTok from someone else’s gifts. What bothered me is the fact that she claimed she saw her guy a couple days before planning exactly what was on the picture and then a couple days later she sent the edit and told me how he did all that. I gave my reaction and after that she stated to slow down and stop talking to me slowly cuz I kept avoiding hanging and i even stopped talking to her for a while after i found out about the ai thing cuz i just felt so dumb and disrespected like what was the point of that ? But then I texted her again and apologized didn’t even mention that and told her I’m sorry for ghosting her after that we were all good again we talked and talked until one day she just listened to my message asking her about her life and then she ghosted me for a good while.
When that happened I kept asking if I did something wrong and that I hope she was okay and a month after
She sent me a whole essay telling me why she didn’t talk saying that she believes my bf is the reason why I don’t hang w her
I then told her that part of it was him yes as I’m in a relationship now and I have things to do but I also told her the real reason I got tired of hiding things.
When I confronted her, she didn't apologize. She panicked and created an entire text conversation between her and her boyfriend to "prove" she wasn't lying. She even added a fake profile picture (the real guy doesn't even have one) and cropped the name so I couldn't look him up, thinking I was too dumb to notice since I don't use Instagram.
I sent one last text calling her out for the fake screenshot and sent the link to the AI template. She’s been silent for a week.
I’m genuinely baffled. Why go through the effort of creating fake profiles and text threads just to keep up a lie? Why create those gifts in the beginning at all? For me in specific I was the only person she sent this to, I’m so confused and I don’t understand why she would do this, I don’t undersyans jealousy, what do you have to be jealous of when you could have more than me if you wanted and it’s not about material things but like why tell me what’s gonna happen then create it and when I confront you deny it ? At your old age? I feel a little guilty for cutting her off, but I’m starting to realize she was never really my friend. Has anyone else dealt with someone this pathological? And do any of yal have any opinions of what her problem w me could be I understand I haven’t been the greatest friend for cutting her off and not hanging out but I beleive my reason is more then valid