u/AdLast9419

I am South Asian. I have faced a lot of discrimination for being Sotuh Asian, and my dad has told me many times about mot standing out and not drawing attention etc etc. I'm also a really big fan of Bella Kay and she recently dropped her album. In said album there is a song called A Father's Lament. Here are rhe lyrics:

Hey snoosh, it's your dad, just checkin' on you

Give me a call whenever you can or have some time

When I was no taller than four ol' feet

Wise ol' Daddy said to me

"Don't be too much, but don't be too little

If you wanna get out, live right in the middle"

I can't always save you, little girl

I can only pray this filthy world

Doesn't break you down piece by piece

Like all those people did to me

They'll comment, prod, and poke your skin

'Cause they just can't stand the sight of it

And I hope that's not your future, but just in case it is

Don't be too loud, our loud isn't their loud

Don't be too proud, girls like you can't be proud

Humble, smart, and patient, live those words like they're sacred

You're Black, baby girl, oh, don't waste it

When the dresses got smaller, smaller than me

Dear ol' Daddy cleared up some things

"Now that you're older, you've got to be smart

Don't give 'em one reason to hate you

Don't give 'em one reason to start"

I can't always save you, little girl

I can only pray this filthy world

Will lift you up and keep you safe

And you come home every day

They don't assume the worst in you

Just 'cause they don't match your hue

I hope that's not your future, but just in case it is

Don't be too loud, our loud isn't their loud

Don't be too proud, girls like you can't be proud

Humble, smart, and patient, live those words like they're sacred

You're Black, baby girl, uh-huh, don't waste it, don't waste it

And in fifteen years, I hope I don't give the same speech

To my little boy, Tommy, he likes race cars and Nikes

I hope I can save that little boy, he is just a kid, and so am I

Like all the ones before him who hurt and begged to just fit in

I pray this world can find its penance

I hope one day those kids can forgive it

I commented under a tiktok with this song saying that even though I'm South Asian, not Black, I relate to the song, and I got absolutely flamed by people saying that the song is for Black people. I was confused because I really do relate to like the entire song except the line "You're Black, baby girl" of course. I was wondering if I shouldn't be saying that, but it did confuse me. I wasn't trying to say that this song wasn't for Black people or anything like that. I understand that different people experience racism in different ways. It just confused me since the only line I'm my experience that is really specific to Black people is the line that goes " You're Black, baby girl" because I've lived like the entire rest of the song despite being South Asian. AITA?

I am not a good texter. I am autistic and have a low social battery as it is, even for texts. In group chats I am a part of I only read messages I don't say anything unless i must. One of my best friends I've know for like 4 years now and we've been really close for like two, recently messaged me saying she felt like we weren't as close as we used to be. I responded saying I'm sure it's because it is currently summer break and we're not spending 6 hours together 5 days a week. She said that she was annoyed because she apparently has proof that I stay up till like 2 am and yet I don't respond to her texts past like 11 pm.

I tried to tell her I've been staying up less late recently, I'm trying to fix my sleep schedule to stop waking up at 12 pm. She said that she has proof I've stayed up and she also said there's no use in trying to prove that I've stayed up that late if I'm just going to deny it. I've tried to explain that I don't text anyone that late unless I can see through the notification that it's urgent/time sensitive. I enjoy my free time. I like to read a lot. But she says she has proof of me texting other people then and I'm sure she just means she's seen the green dot that says I'm online on Instagram but I just be scrolling or replying to a gc that has been trying to plan a hangout for a month but the date keeps changing. I've tried explaining all this to her but she just keeps being upset that I don't respond to her texts then (I'm fairly certain she's asleep by then anyways she wakes up at like 8 or 9 am). I feel like it might also be worth mentioning that about a year ago I was texting her—and our other best friend that we no longer speak to—until 3 am almost every single night because I was always helping them when they were crashing out because i want to become a therapist in the future (collectively our mental health was horrible at the time). AITA? (Also what do I do help) (nobody else that I know has ever gotten upset with me for this before)

UPDATE (fast ik): she's responded to my last text about how I don't text anyone that late and am doing my own stuff at that time with "okkkk" which is more extra letters than she normally uses which we both know means for each other that we're chill now but idk if there's anything stopping this conversation from happening again, there's still like almost two months until our school starts again and I'm pretty sure she'll just keep thinking about how she feels like we're "not as close" because that's what's happened before.