AITAH for not letting my sister collect the food I made for my nephews party? She's now demanding I pay her/refund her for the pizza she had to get instead.
This happened last week but I'm only now feeling well enough to post.
So, I (30f) suffer from migraines. I won't get into the why but they have been/can be that bad I've passed out, thrown up and practically gone blind because of black spots. It's something I've dealt with for years. My family knows about them and knows that when I get one that I need to be left alone. They know to not call me, text me and not come to visit because I will not be able to reply/answer to door.
Last week was my nephews 10th birthday. As I love to cook and I'm the only one in the family with any free time, I offered to cater the whole party - for free. I literally cooked/prepped/baked enough goodies and cakes for over 50 people, including kids. And added allergy/intolerance versions.
But, the day before the party I started to get signs that I was getting a migraine, and whilst I did everything I could to ward it off I knew I wasn't going to be able to do anything, let alone go a party packed with screaming kids, so I messaged my sister (36f) and told her she needs to come and pick up the food TODAY, asap. I said I was getting a migraine and already really needed to lie down so she needs to hurry. She sees my message but doesn't reply. So I send the same to my mum, my dad, my gran, BIL, even her best freind. I got back that they were all busy, couldn't make it, but too please wait as my sister IS on her way. So I wait. And wait. And message and call, but she lets her phone ring, sees the messages, doesn't reply.
After two hours I realise I'm standing in my own kitchen crying from the pain (my medication knocks me out, so i hadn't taken them yet) so I send my sister telling her not to bother showing up, and to figure some else out for the party because I'm not waiting for her. I also call her an entitled b*tch, because how dare she? Then I turn off my buzzer, my phone, take my meds and I'm knocked until out late the next day - after the party.
Well, now my sister is on a rampage because apparently she DID show up at mine, at half 9 that night. And couldn't get in because only tenants have a fob to get into my building. She tries calling and leaves voicemails claiming she didn't see any of my messages and that she needs the food NOW so she can put it in her fridge to prep for tomorrow. To cut the drama short, as I dont answer (I'm MIA to the whole family at this point) she ends up having to get pizza's from a local take out place and go to tesco for all the other bits and goodies. It costs her over £600 for everything, which she is demanding I now have to pay back because she had to use her rent money and it's MY fault for not letting her in 'for just 5 minutes' to get the food and that I need to apologise for calling her a b*tch. My mum is agreeing with her, as I DID promise the food, and it was all ready - all I had to do was let her in, and I chose not too, so really I should pay my sister back. I'm refusing too. AITA. Edit: I'm 36f, sister 30f. Mixed them up.