Anticipating a diagnosis…
Hello, hoping for some advice and or support..
This weekend I came down with the worst flu symptoms I’ve ever experienced, probably the first time I’d say I actually had the flu. I think it’s a chest infection as I have quite a chesty cough. I’d been feeling stressed on the run up and had a pretty gnarly mouth ulcer (which I suffer with pretty frequently) so I knew I was coming down with something.
Everything changed this morning when I woke up and noticed some soreness inside my labia. Upon further inspection I have multiple red sores. I’ve never had anything like this before. I’ve been researching all day and the only explanation that I can find is herpes.
I have had the same partner for 4.5 years and we have been monogamous the entire time. I asked my partner straight up and I would have no reason to believe he would lie to me. I would say I have a good awareness on how common herpes is and that this can lie dormant so it’s possible that I’ve had this for years and just didn’t know. I haven’t had very many previous sexual partners however my partner has had quite a lot of unprotected sex with various people before me. We both got STI tests before we got together which all came back clear. I am guessing that I have either caught this from a previous partner who is asymptomatic or my current partner who is also asymptomatic.
I am hopefully going to get tested within the next few days. I am preparing for it to come back positive as I really don’t know what else it could be. My partner has been quite supportive but I have a feeling he thinks I am over reacting and it will be negative. He says his previous STI screenings included herpes and were negative but the tests only included urine and a swab so I have tried explaining they wouldn’t show if it was lying dormant in him. I’m just worried about how he is going to take the news of me testing positive even though there’s a chance I could have actually contracted it from him (not that I am blaming anyone as I believe whoever I have got it from has done so unknowingly). I suppose I’m just worried that things could change between us. Also, if I am positive then what are the next steps for him? Will he need to do a blood test to confirm if he has the antibodies? Any words of wisdom appreciated!