Hi, I’ve had HSV2 for 1.8 years, and my triggers are sex and menstruation. Since taking valacyclovir, I’ve had zero outbreaks. Is it safe to take it for the rest of my life without any problems? I’m so afraid that I’ll have these triggers forever. 😔
Went to the doctor for burning when urinating last February. I got tested for everything but herpes because the doctor said if I didn’t have blisters it wouldn’t be herpes. I didn’t test positive for anything else. Got tested for everything last Monday and came back positive for HSV-2. First STD ever. I feel played by the doctor that told me I didn’t need the herpes test back in February. I have had it since February and haven’t known at all? I am not familiar with how herpes works
The girl that gave it to me was a girl I was comfortable with and had sex with before. Weird that she didn’t want me to use a condom knowing she been with others.
Even worse, I had plans to take someone I’ve recently been seeing on a vacation but I felt I had to disappear, I don’t know how to tell her what’s happened to me. Not just her but all the other women that I made plans with. She is very upset with me, I don’t blame her, we were about to have a good time. She was the reason I went to go get tested because I wanted to be sure I didn’t have anything. I am 27 and not sure what it will be like in the future.
Has anyone had that symptom where it burns when they urinate and nothing else? If I hadn’t got tested , I wouldn’t have known I had it. I still am a bit in shock that I have it.
Hey I’m just curious about all of the people like me who are Lifetime asymptomatic I am in my 30s (M), and have never had an outbreak in my life, I was just recently tested and found out I had HSV2 antibodies. Of Course my doctor said I don’t have to worry about anything. But I did tell the last woman I was sexually active with and she didn’t care and we continued to have sex.
My questions are do you take daily Valacyclovir and what is your experience with it?
And how has your overall life experience been after finding out you were positive even though you’ve never shown symptoms?
Would it be a good idea to start a laser hair removal on my genital area considering I have hsv2?
I know it could trigger an outbreak, but in the long run I wouldn't have to shave as often and worry every time that shaving might cause another outbreak. If shaving is one of my triggers, maybe it would mean fewer outbreaks. Plus, I wouldn't have to stress every time I get a new lesion wondering if it's herpes or just razor burn/folliculitis.
Has anyone done it?
Hello, I (24f) am going on a first date (23m) in almost 2 years since having a baby. I’ll call my son’s father Cole (34m). When me and cole first got together, I was I just turned 21 and he was 32. He was my boss, and after a work party, he had hosted at a bar. I had a couple too many drinks and he said he would give me a drive home. He ended up driving me back to his place and at the time I was OK with it one thing led to another and we ended up seeing each other from there. I had a bad situation going on at home and was mainly staying with friends at the time so he very quickly moved me in with him for him to “take care and protect me”. Within a couple months, he ended up moving into a nicer apartment which I found out later was in his exes name. At the time I was naïve enough to think that he was genuinely trying to look out for my best interest in the relationship did start out great (in my head). After about four months, he began picking fights. Constantly accusing me of cheating and stopped taking me out with him anywhere. It was around the same time I realized that he had been doing coke as well. He started going out with friends every weekend and not letting me come with him. This is around the same time he brought up the idea of threesomes. Especially when he would get coked out he said that he deserved to have his woman show him off and that he wanted to impress me on what he could do to other women. I thought that he had been joking or that it was just dirty talk until one day, he tried bringing over someone he met at a bar. I was very angry, but ended up still staying because I thought I loved him. It was a very stupid 21 year old thing to think. Not too long after this he started picking fights at work too, at the time, no one knew that we were together because he said it would get fired. So pretty soon after he had me quit without notice to the higher ups. He promised that he would start sobering up and wanted to take care of me to eventually start a family. He actually did the opposite and started going on couple day benders at least once a week. After about four months of not having a job, I ended up finding out from his ex that he had stopped paying any of the bills and that she had been covering our cost to live there however she stopped paying as well and that there’s only two days before we need to get out of the apartment. We started living out of hotels and friends couches. He also sold my car one of the days that he had gone out without telling me. I later found out is for more drugs since he had been going on almost week long benders at that point. Something snapped in me pretty soon after that I needed to get out but knew it wasn’t gonna be so simple with how manipulative and controlling he had gotten. While I was contemplating everything I found out I was pregnant with my son. We found out together and it was scary and exciting all at the same time. he had promised he was going to get sober, and that we were going to be a happy family. Which he did get sober for about a week then quickly fell back into old habits, but trying to hide it behind my back. He was still going out to bars but saying that it was for work. But something snapped three weeks after I found out I was pregnant and him leaving me an Airbnb without food or water or toilet paper for 3 days while he was on a bender. I ended up calling my mom and having her pick me up in the middle of the night. He did come with me to my first OB appointment & I told them about me having a very painful ingrown hair. This is where they told me I had contracted herpes. I was devastated. I had actually got tested for everything before we got together. I had never had an outbreak before in my life and was terrified. After this appointment, cole never showed up to any of the other events or ultrasounds. Since then I got my life on track. Found a great job, bought a car, moved into a home & brought my son into the world. His father does come around from time to time, but has never been consistent. Typically visits are only about 30 minutes every few months.
Fast forward to now I’m going to be going on a date for the first time since being with my son’s father. He seems like a very sweet and caring man. He doesn’t mind that I have a son and so far has very genuine intentions. How do I go about telling him that the father of my son gave me herpes? I appreciate any words of advice in advance.
I’ve been getting to know a woman for three weeks, and when things started getting a bit intense, she told me she had gotten tested and had herpes antibodies. She showed me the tests, and her result is 6.9. Years ago, I had a scare because my ex was unfaithful to me; I got tested 12 weeks later and came out negative.
Here’s the thing: I agreed to have sex with this woman because she has never had an outbreak and her herpes was discovered two years ago. I used a condom from start to finish, and we didn't do oral sex. Also, I hadn't shaved, so I didn't have any micro-cuts on my skin.
I want to know what the chances are that I got infected from just one sexual encounter?
Please enlighten me.
question! ive had ohsv1 since i was a kid literally 5 im f23 now and worried i’ve contracted ghsv1 i had a cold sore of course and it may have spread to my genitals via kissing and oral and have been having genital symptoms ever since. i just wanna be educated! whats your guys take and has anyone contracted ghsv1 years after having ohsv1?
Heyyy! I’m 27f and just wanting to see if there are any women that are open to friendships. ☺️I know dealing with this can be a process and can be lonely. I personally wanted some friends that can relate. Plus I love meeting new people! Feel free to reach out!
i am newly diagnosed (about a month in) and i had sex a few days ago (protected) but didn’t do anything oral out of confusion. so can someone go down on me without a dental dam and be fine? pls lmk, thanks!! also i will not be seeing that partner again bc he said he would “never talk to me again” and “be very angry at me” if he contracted herpes from me. like bruh chill…. i understand the concern but people are so rude about it half the time i disclose. i’ve been called many names and offensive words since my diagnosis upon disclosure. how do yall move on after being called a wh*re and sl*t after disclosing?????
So a few days ago i went and got my bloodwork done and i told the doc to test me for everything including hsv1 and hsv2 and the results came back today hsv1 negative and hsv2 low positive 1.15, that has to be a false positive because I’ve never slept with anybody that has had visible outbreaks and trust me i pay attention, and nor have i ever had any outbreaks , has anyone ever dealt with a low positive that turned out to be a false positive because im lowkey freaking out
Hey guys, I (21F) think I contracted Hsv2 from a recent hookup, but I'm not really as bothered as I feel like I should be?
I knew his status and the risk even with protection. I shaved right before so it could also be some unfortunate razor bumps, but even if it is Hsv2 I'm not really all that anxious when everywhere I look online about it people are freaking out. If anything I'm just a bit sore and mildly irritated. I'm of course going to get tested so I know if I need to disclose to future partners.
I just feel like I should care more, especially considering I like to casually date and hook up, like I'm waiting for it to hit me and I'll be suddenly really upset? Let me know any useful advice you guys might have for dealing with it mentally :) !
I had sex with this guy while I was drunk off my a s s. We were so busy trying to find a condom and I’m drunk so I’m all over the place to be honest.. I’m thinking I disclosed to him but I guess I didn’t so I told him the next day while hungover and he told me that I didn’t disclose while I was drunk.. he is definitely making me feel bad for what happened. He said I tricked him and this and that but I feel like he shouldn’t have pressured me into sex while I was drunk out of my mind and I feel extremely bad and he is making me feel worse. He told me we’re not together but we will be together forever since I “tricked” him and he also told me that he will still do whatever he wants and he wants me to do whatever he says or he will hate me… I don’t know how to feel.
I’m 23/F and developed genital sores about five days ago. I saw an OB-GYN three days ago who was 99% sure it was HSV. She did a swab test on the area and I got bloodwork done (not for HSV) to rule out several other STDs. She also had me start taking an antiviral before receiving a diagnosis. Yesterday my swab test results came back negative for both types, and my blood work results are coming back negative for other STDs. I’m confused because the sores were very active so if I have HSV the swab should’ve been positive. Has anyone else had a negative swab test but then tested positive with a blood work test? I’m not sure if I need to request a bloodwork test for HSV or if this is something else entirely.
I am one of the 29,000 that got diagnosed in 2025. I rarely see anyone posting from the UK. Is it because people just don't talk about it here? Or is everyone just getting on with life? Struggling to find people to talk to in the UK.
If you're out there, please feel free to send a message ☺️☺️
There is hope in disclosure fellas. and even if they say no just go watch porn.
I have been dealing with back to back outbreaks since February
Acyclovir slowed it down but didnt work
Valacyclovir 500mg didn't work
1 gram worked for a few weeks but theyre active and coming back now
Im on 2 grams now and not hopeful
I tried 3k l lysine while on the other meds and have been avoiding arginine for months now
I have a prescription of Famvir that I am wondering if I should take which obviously I probably should
I dont see an end to this in sight and it has been ruining my life in every aspect especially talking to girls and getting into a relationship
I live in a place that gets extreme UV daily in the summers but this started before that
I am wearing sunscreen chapstick 50 spf
I work from home but am going to start working outside for a living within the next year which is just going to make matters worse
Im in a very calm state of mind when I say I think its only a matter of time until this escalates to my eye because its centralized to my lips but im already getting tiny ones on other parts of my face. Ive never heard of a person getting a months-year long outbreak and suddenly getting over it. I dont see an end in sight.
And I do believe I have some immunodeficiency but its not aids, Ive had tests done so thats not it
This week has been so devastating for me. I developed a cold sore a few days after spending the weekend and getting intimate with my partner.
I didn’t know what it was and I just thought I was coming down with a cold. I went to the pharmacy a few days after and they gave me acyclovir and told me to apply and didn’t tell me anything else.
I went home and entered a whole obsession mode after I discovered that a cold sore is same as herpes. I got so scared because my partner and I had engaged in both oral and penetrative sex before I developed the sore so we could have transmitted the virus to each other during sex.
I was so scared, but I called him this morning he came to see me, I told him about the sore and we decided to go get tested tomorrow. He was also as clueless as I was. I’m still scared of the results and mostly about having given him the HSV unknowingly
I’m so scared of what if the test comes back positive and what it could mean for our relationship but I really pray that if anything, his comes back negative because I don’t know if I can live with myself
M28. A woman I have been hanging out with and really like has disclosed to me she has ghsv-2. I really want to look past it as she seems like a great person that I can see a future with, but at the same time I’m worried about catching it because of how that may affect my life if we didn’t work out. I know that is always an unknown anyway but still.
I’m pretty sure I might have ghsv-1 from a previous relationship from getting oral from someone with it, not 100% sure as I just got a mild kind of rash once but I have also told her this information. If this is the case would it have any effect on me potentially catching hsv2?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We haven’t had sex during our relationship because we’re waiting until marriage.
Before we got together, he had previous sexual partners, but he has always told me he was tested and everything was fine. Recently, he developed an ulcer on the lower part of his abdomen that had been there for about a month. His doctor swabbed the ulcer, and the swab came back positive for HSV-2.
I’m trying to understand what this means. Since we’ve never been sexually intimate, I’m wondering if it’s genuinely possible that he caught HSV-2 before we got together and only had his first noticeable outbreak 3 years later.
I’ve read that HSV-2 can stay dormant for years, but I don’t know how common that actually is. Does anyone here have experience with having their first outbreak years after getting infected, or know how likely that is? Also, can a positive swab from an ulcer tell you when the infection was acquired, or does it only confirm that the sore is HSV-2?
I’m looking for honest medical information and personal experiences rather than assumptions about infidelity, because I know the test itself can’t date the infection.
what is the point in living with hsv2 you should wear a condom with sex which takes away sensation and intimacy, your 24/7 at potential risk as you never know when your shedding, only 13% of the world have it so why would people pick you when theres 87% hsv free people, you could kill your child with it, it can cause parkinsons, it strips you of your personality, ruins your mental health, like what is the point? Why is there no cure? Why is there no help?