Do cousins behave like this?
One of my cousin brothers and sisters , who are almost 12-15 years younger than me and my sister are constantly making mean comments around us. I and my sister are very nerdy and introvert and we certainly don't have the gift of gab. It was funny till a point but now it started hurting us! One of the incidents was where we all went to a mall, and the cousin brother got himself a t-shirt. He asked me if I liked it, I said - its beautiful. Pat he says, "paise udhar dene hai". I mean I was caught offguard. There is a way to speak or request. I dont mind paying for him but the way he spoke to me, as if I don't know where the counter is. Mind you, he is working since 2 years. Ever since I and my sister started earning we never asked anyone to pay for us. I brushed it aside as a childish act. But then the series of events started.
Another incident, where my sister had a grey hair and my cousin sister literally called her buddhi. She is 12 years younger than me but constantly competes with me. She would comment how i got darker, our clothes are boring and she is best-dressed at all family events, etc. There was one wedding, where she intentionally told the parlour girl that she wants to outshine the bride. When I confronted and said that its rude to even think like that - she was like - aapse toh hoga nai, mai hi karungi na. Everything I and my sister have gifted to my parents - be it a fridge or tv, she got exactly the same but much bigger for her parents.
My cousin brother was understanding initially but over the time, it feels like if we are around, he expects us to pay for everything. Even my own sister never behaved like this. We loved our cousins but this changed behaviour is extremely annoying and disappointing at the same time.
Am I overthinking this?