My boyfriend isn’t coming to my graduation because he doesn’t want to ruin the day
I come from an only child, very strict and conservative Asian single mom household who dislikes my bf for reasons only she knows since she hasn’t told me or any relative I am close with any reason for disliking him.
My graduation is coming up and I noticed my bf acting weird which I thought was because he got a bit mad from a prior arguement. He then messaged me saying he’s sorry and he can’t go to my graduation anymore because he doesn’t want my mom having tantrums or going mad for “ruining the day”. For context, he was very excited for me and for him to attend said event. This will be the third time my bf and mom was supposed to meet but then I received that message. I just wanted to vent because I am sad for myself and my boyfriend because we both know how he became an emotional anchor to me (ik it sounds bad but i don’t want to explain longer) especially this past year. It hurts my heart knowing he doesn’t want me going against my mom and yet my mother doesn’t acknowledge what he does for me because of being conservative.
I just wanted my mom to be straightforward with what her problem is with my boyfriend (maybe even with me) but it hurts because I know she and her fmily will shut me, my thoughts, and emotions down and she disguises it as “Mothers know best”, but at the end of the day, she’s the person who least knows me.
EDIT: y’all i never said i was blaming and not protecting the bf 😭