u/AdPrestigious9784

The last few months have been absolutely insane. I had my second child who has disabilities we were not aware of prior to birth. Between my youngest’s health issues and having a toddler it’s just too much. I work from home part time, we are in the process of buying a house, and my husband and I are struggling. He’s working full time and in school. I didn’t expect the transition to be so hard. I was supposed to stop working when my second was born but that quickly became unrealistic. I got a medical bill I can’t afford for my daughter today and another referral of a doctor she needs to see. I lost my childcare I did have two days a week. I’m no longer the fun, museum, play date, daily outings mom my toddler had. I’m not as patient and not as fun. He deserves so much more. I feel like I’m failing him. When we were planning our second baby I wasn’t expecting for everything to go wrong. He gets an overtired, overstimulated, depressed mom and that’s not fair to him. I’m trying to do better but terrible twos and a newborn are kicking my butt.

My child is starting solids soon and do to a disability will have to eat a specific and healthy diet. I am scared out of my mind. I have had eating disorders of every kind at some point in my life. I’m very overweight and have been eating horribly since giving birth. My husband eats terribly as well. I make sure my toddler eats well and gets his recommended portions of each food group. He’s a very healthy weight and height. However, he still eats like a normal kid and eats red meat, cheese, salt and other foods my second won’t be able to. That being said if my second child gains too much weight or eats too much of certain foods it can cause organ failure. We are already worried about a specific organ failing and closely monitoring it. After speaking to her doctors they recommended the entire family switch to her diet set by a specialist nutritionist. Has anyone experienced something like this? I don’t know what to do and feel like I’m drowning. It’s also going to be important she exercises so I found a gym near me. My son gets atleast an hour of exercise everyday but I want to show not just tell. I have so much going on and really just need some advice, tips, and encouragement. TIA