I did my bio-metrics appointment recently. I'm going from the USA to the UK, by the way. For those of you who have already been through the fiancee/partner visa process, about how long did it take to get your decision? Also, do you have any tips for making my arrival and first few months a bit easier?
* For a bit of context, I'm a displaced transgender person who fled from persecution in a Republican-led state. I left after my Q family members threatened me with violence and kicked me out of the house. *
I thought I'd finally be able to live a normal life again when I settled in a blue city. My grandmother (Q Adjacent), my mom (Q), and my dad (Q) had other plans. They started literally stalking me, showing up at my door, and sending me letters as well. Some of the letters were even cordial, but most of them were begging me to de-transition and go back to living as a man. They held inheritance of the family's farmland over my head, guilt-tripped me, and even sent me a physical copy of the Bible with my deadname engraved on it.
I got so fed up with the abuse that I had to move states, and I ended up near the DC area. That was mistake number 2. My grandmother got the brilliant idea to stalk social media until she found the company I work for (the manager had posted my picture on there without asking my consent) and confirmed my location. This led my family to inundate our small business with spam phone calls, all demanding to see "My grandson, [Deadname]". I started getting even more letters in my mail slot. Some where just addressed to "Grandchild" on the envelope because she refuses to use my real name. I started having literal panic attacks because I'll never be free to move on from them at this rate. My housemate informed me just recently that he'd found another one in my mail. I can't take it anymore.
For the third time, I no longer feel safe in my own home because of the rising wave of transphobia pushed by Q and Q adjacent individuals. They've started totally redecorating DC into a shrine to Donald Trump. I can't even take the train to work anymore without worrying I'll be accosted for my gender expression by a bunch of out-of-state MAGA tourists. The country I once loved and proudly supported no longer exists, and people like my Q family killed it. I've never been more ashamed to be American, and I've just submitted my visa application to move to Britain. I did bio-metrics last week. Hoping for the best.