Been in a long term relationship, now what?! [M26]
I (26M) have been with my gf (27F) for 6 years. Started in college, first 3-4 years were long distance (lockdown + studies), been in the same city for 2.5 years now
We’ve had exactly 0 penetration sex in the entire relationship. I’ve been open about wanting that since early on and the answer has always been “give it time.” At this point I feel almost guilty even bringing it up — the last few times I did, it turned into a fight. I’m not trying to pressure her, consent matters to me, but I’m HLM and the rejection has started to really wear on me
Early on I chalked it up to trust or a premarital thing. But 6 years in, same city, I’m starting to think it might just be a LL situation that has nothing to do with me. She’s otherwise fine in life, good job, but almost no physical activity and does take stress over small things. I have a much more demanding job but I make time for the gym and sport. Just been thinking if some of these might be the reason
There’s a lot of history and I didn’t think this would be the thing that breaks us. But being on this sub has made me realize sexual compatibility isn’t something you just defer — it matters long term. Just not sure how to move forward from here. Waiting for sex feels torture at the moment
PS: The same post from morning got deleted