Girlfriend [33F] ignores boyfriends [30M] needs in bedroom.
As the title says, my girlfriend (33F) ignores me (30M) when I’m in the mood for some bedroom fun. We been dating for close to a year now and our relationship itself is pretty good, I take her to dinners, I help her with chores in her house (plus I do chores in my own house) I take her to concerts, we went to Cancun 3 times this year already, I buy her groceries and stuff, she also takes care of me by cooking and packing me lunch and stuff, but our sex life is honestly not that good in my opinion.
We started with having sex maybe 4 times a month, and slowly it dwindled down to about 1 time a month if even that. When we do have sex I make sure to make her orgasm, I’m open to using toys and whatever else I need to do to get her off.
She never initiates, and when I try to she tells me she is tired or not in the mood and just flips to the other side of bed and ignores me.
Other times she just wants to cuddle and nothing ever comes out of it, I’m fine with cuddling but it does make me a certain type of way when she gets what she wants out of a relationship and ignores my needs.
I tried taking to her about it and she just shrugs it off as if it is my personal problem. On multiple occasions she even told me to just go to the bathroom and use my hand.
On our last trip to Cancun she wanted to go into the jewelry store and started looking at engagement rings so I think she is serious about this relationship and so am I but honestly the sex life is making me have doubt.
Any similar stories and how Yall got past these issues? And no, neither of us are ok with opening the relationship to other people.
TLDR: My girlfriend ignores my advances in bed and doesn’t want to do anything unless it’s a rare situation when she is in mood. How do I talk to her about it?