Husband seems to be laying groundwork to leave an event early, so I’m opting to go solo
My husband doesn’t have an official diagnosis, but several therapists have suggested that he seems like a narcissist, or at least has narcissistic traits.
I bought tickets for us to a concert that I was excited about. We talked about it well before hand. The past couple of days, he started saying that it’s his boundary that we leave early if he wants to. I asked him for an example of why he would need to leave early, and he kept saying that it’s his “boundary” that he can leave and it needs to be respected.
I told him that a boundary is related to a specific behavior or situation, like not wanting to stay past 11pm; you can’t just say “boundary” to get out of commitments at any point.
So I’ve decided that I am getting a hotel room for myself. I’m not stopping him from going, but I told him we can drive separately and I will plan to stay so if he needs to leave then I don’t have to.
The concert is this week, but I don’t expect that he’s going to go, since he can’t control the situation like he’s been trying to.