Travel alone
My fiancée and I are having a major disagreement about solo travel after marriage, and I genuinely don’t know if we’re incompatible or just overthinking.
I’m more conservative/religious, and she’s more liberal. I personally believe a married woman shouldn’t travel alone with friends for things like trips/concerts/etc, while she believes if I’m allowed to travel with friends, then she should have the same freedom with her girlfriends.
To be fair, Im thinking about telling her I’m actually willing to give up solo/friends trips myself if that’s what it takes for both of us to feel respected and secure in the relationship. So it’s not really about “rules for her but not for me.”
The bigger issue is that she feels controlled, while I feel like we have fundamentally different values around marriage, freedom, and boundaries.
We love each other a lot and were planning marriage soon, but now we both feel misunderstood and emotionally drained from these discussions.
For married people or people with experience:
Is this something couples can realistically work through?
Or is this the type of values mismatch that usually gets worse after marriage?