u/Admirable_Mine_767

title says it all, preferably shahr-e-faisal ones

Ok so basically I just graduated in CS and got an offer for a job, the salary is 200k but I am confused if I should tell my family(mom and dad). Was previously earning remotely during my university to cover my expenses aswell and they knew my salary(80k) but they didn't ask much cuz it was for all my expenses(didnt ask a penny from them other than living with them) and savings. For context we do come from a somewhat well off middle class background and both my parents work, mom works at a school here in Pak, whereas my dad works an average job in Middle East as he isn't that educated. Now don't get me wrong I love my parents and would give every penny to them of what I earn, but the issue isn't that I'm conflicted over giving at home vs doing my own savings, the major issue is that I have an older brother(4 years older than me), it has been 4 years since he graduated from his bachelors here in pak, and 2 years back my parents decided to take out a loan of 1CR+ which my dad is still repaying, for my brother to go for his 1 year masters degree in Europe, he has graduated and its going to be almost 2 years since he graduated from Masters, doesnt look like he has a career plan and hasnt sent a penny back home instead often asks mom for money which she sends without hesitation. I am obviously upset with this situation seeing other families and their big brothers contributing in the family and helping their younger siblings(I never took his help, I did everything all on my own, same as not having an older brother at all) and here is my older brother contributing nothing. Now back to the point, since I have now graduated and if I disclose this income in the house they are gonna ask for more than I initially intended to contribute in the house which I thought 40k for the family would be a good amount, 100k for savings mutual funds etc, 15k travel expenses, and the rest for my own stuff that includes saving up for material things like a bike. But I know for a fact that even if they accept my initial 40k offering I will later receive taanay of "itna pesa ja kahan rah he" "tumharay paas tou XYZ pesay jama hain, ABC theek karwa lo" even though my parents can afford to get that thing done by themselves but when they know that I have some savings(tou woh phel jatay hain) iykwim and they treat my savings as easily expendable money. Now if I was the only child sure I would have contributed half or more than half but since I have an older brother who is taking even more instead of giving, it gives him a free pass and parents dont even say nothing to him and i feel like I'm leaving a bad example for further financial abuse by my brother.