u/Admirable_Way_563

I (f27) and my bf (m31) have been seeing each other for 6 months. Recently he won a big award at his work and we had a nice little outing to celebrate. We got home after we had had a bit to drink and we had sex. Afterwards we were hanging out in the bathroom about to shower and he gets on his phone. He then turns to me and says “did I tell you about that girl I asked out at work unsuccessfully?” I think the “unsuccessfully” part of this is what caused me to react the way I did. I said yes because this info I already knew (he asked her out a few months before we started dating, he told me this early on). But I asked why he brought her up.
Keep in mind they work at the same company and the girl also won a big award alongside my bf.
He said some negative things about her, rumors he heard and not much else…also said he “wasn’t sure” how I’d react to him mentioning her. Well I kinda lost it. I ended up locking him out of the bathroom to shower by myself. When I was done I packed my bag to leave but he was explaining that he didn’t know I’d react that way…that he loves me…that the reason he brought her up was because he was reflecting about being with me…how happy he is where he’s at now…nobody has loved him how I’ve love him…
But I told him he could’ve said all that without bringing up a girl who rejected him right after we had sex, it made me feel unchosen and insecure and I questioned if he loved me, which he didn’t like. It just felt spiteful.
He said I “didn’t give him the chance to lead into all that” before I reacted.
But I feel you just don’t bring that up to your partner, drunk or not, right? But maybe I did overreact?