WIBTAH for switching gyms?
My husband and I both work out regularly. It was something we bonded over when we first started dating and we've been going to the gym together whenever our schedules align for about 3 years.
Recently we moved and found a new gym that we both found really impressive. They have the best equipment available and enough of it that we've almost never had to wait for anything. My husband is over the moon and has been seeing a ton of success there.
The problem is that I hate it. The music is so loud that even with my noise canceling headphones on full blast, it's still disruptive. There's so much equipment that it's difficult to walk through the gym without bumping into someone/something. When we started there was a designated area for powerlifting that I would frequent simply because it was off in its own corner and felt less crowded. However they've recently put more equipment in this section and it is now just as overwhelming.
I've noticed myself cutting workouts short simply to get out, feeling reluctant to go, or even skipping workouts entirely because I just hate being there.
I've talked to my husband about this and how I want to get a membership elsewhere but he is super opposed to this idea because he loves our current gym. I explained that I'm not asking him to leave too, but I want to go somewhere I feel comfortable because this is now interfering with my goals.
He said that he's always loved working out with me and doesn't want us to be at different gyms. He's asked me to try and overcome these feelings, work out with him so I feel better/safer, or just work together on some kind of creative solution to stay at the same gym. I suggested that we could each get a membership at a new gym and he could work out with me at the new location whenever he liked while still going to the old one most of the time, but he doesn't like this idea.
I felt the same reluctance to go to the gym today and just had to leave my workout early due to a panic attack. I am thinking of just signing up at a different gym despite his feelings because I love working out but just feel like I can't do it here. I don't want to hurt my husband's feelings but I miss loving the gym and being excited to go.
WIBTAH if I signed up somewhere else?