I [23F] am not satisfied with my bf[26M]
I [23F] am not satisfied with my bf[26M]
hello! throwaway account
TLTR: my bf is unemployed and uninvolved and im frustrated by his lack of activity and implication.
my bf (26m) lost his job a few weeks ago (his position was dissolved) and i feel like our relationship went downhill. i am in my last year of college, i work a part time job and i am busy most of the time with exams and my thesis.
i feel frustrated because he is extremely inactive. he is not as present in the house work as i would like him to be, i usually have to ask him to do something twice for him to actually do it. he's at home all the time, has mostly nothing to do and therefore does nothing. whenever i bring these issues up, we end up fighting and nothing really changes long term.
i love him tremendously, but this is really eating at me. i am more career oriented, he's more go with the flow. he has been my greatest supporter and i know he loves me a lot too, i just think he's too immature sometimes. our communication feels very circular, he loves his independence and doing what he wants when he wants, but i feel like i cant count on him to manage the house and stuff while im going to this period. i would also like him to just do something for himself, not just laying around the house.
how can i motivate him to be more active? and to do more, not necessarily housework, but any activity? i do believe i reflect my stress onto him, but it's not the first time we had this issue and i am scared I'll only get even more frustrated and even resentful.
thanks in advance for the responses and sorry for the wall of text!