u/AdorablePlace5530

Male
30
Philippines

I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 5 years now. The way we started was kind of weird, she knew I was seeing other girls and I wasn’t committed. We were having a lot of sex before we committed to each other. But it all slowly faded. She’s not as active as I am and I’m constantly horny. It’s a miracle if I get some in a week and I would really like to have sex with her 2x a day which rarely happens. Without the sex I feel like I’m living with a roommate, and I constantly get frustrated (I don’t lash out) like I feel depressed and stuck. I slowly then just learned that she has low ??libido?? and that she’s a really innocent person. She has never masturbated in her entire life, and when I found out I figured and questioned if she’s the right person for me. I don’t want to grow old deprived and not enjoying my youth. It feels like a life short-lived.

I did already talk to her about it, and it’s been over a year and I still feel the same way. I do love her as she is, but I feel unhappy. I’ve been doing my best to save this relationship but whenever I’m alone when she goes to work that’s when it hits.

I postponed asking her these questions when she was taking her license exams as an architect and I wanted to make sure she got a decent job and a bit of stability before I break her heart. It’s her 2nd job now, and she has a better career than the first and getting paid twice as much. I feel kind of stuck. I’m not asking anything in return, I even gave her money as she transitioned between jobs (or when she wanted to rest) because she was underpaid. I always paid for our trips and accommodation.

Is it selfish for me to feel this way? I feel like I’ve been using her as a stepping stone to becoming a better person if I leave and that makes me feel guilty even if that was not my intention. I just want to hear people out. Are women out there depriving their men from sex? Is that normal?

What sucks even more is that my mom loves her. She would give her all these things.