I am quite bad at taking pics of my gf. I have an upcoming trip with her to Japan and would like to up my game before then so we can get some pics that she’ll like in. Anyone have any recs? Any online courses or resources? Thank you in advance!
Im 33 yo black male and I'm pretty alt. I'm into art, poetry, metal, goth music, fashion, festivals, paganism, etc. Basically anything weird, (but also fitness) which means pretty much all my interests are white domianted and I cannot meet women to save my life. I'm not aiming for any race of women specifically, but women who share my interests, but its def much harder when you're different from most everyone else.
Even the bars I go to are pretty racially inversed. I'm tall, in shape and I dress really well...I've gotten compliments from women in passing on ocassion for my hair or attire, but I cannot meet women to save my life.
I know its subjective for everyone, bjt how much does race marrer for women in the age range?
Sorry if this has been asked - I've used the search function with several variations and can't find it, so I'm hoping this isn't going in the bin with all the other monotonous posts.
It's no secret that men pretty much never tire of hearing about how great their dick is, especially men with large penises (don't @ me, we all know it's true lol). And I am very aware that almost no woman wants to be reduced to just her sex organs the way men often do.
But, is it the kind of thing where an occasional compliment is appreciated? Or for women, generally speaking, is it still too objectifying? Or maybe even just a noncompliment, like saying she has sexy earlobes or sensual knees?
Along with the numerous posts relating to the penis, we also receive a significant number of height-related questions.
All penis/height related posts will now be removed.
These are low effort, monotonous, and quite frankly, nobody cares.
So deal with it. Make yourself a better person instead of harping on something you cannot change. Or take these questions elsewhere.
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On how a man dresses.
I'm a 20yo 5'4 male(5'5 with shoes on) and I'm wondering if it matters that I'm short and if it's a deal breaker in the dating world?
Do you find this offensive if someone you're dating asked you "How did you pass language arts school or reading class" if you accidentally mispronounced a word that you haven't used before?
Do you feel like this statement is rude or going overboard?
The reason that I'm asking is because the girl that I'm dating had given me this same question of how did I pass language art school or reading class of how I accidentally mispronounced that word and she thought it was funny but I didn't. I just kindly told her that everyone is going to mispronounce a word that we're not familiar with at some point or for that first time. No one is perfect.
She said I'm getting defensive and didn't say anything to me for the rest of the ride home. But I just give my respectful opinion without yelling at her because she definitely gave me hers.
What are your thoughts?
I am pretty well aware of the "I have a boyfriend" line to shoot down guys you dont like, but do you also use it as a shit test to test one's interest as platonic or romantic?
I am of the camp that platonic relationships between men and women, ignoring mutuals or near-family relationships, are contextually romantic. The friends to lovers trope is both gender's most preferred avenue for relationships to start according to surveys, but that in of itself implies alot of platonic relationships are pseudo-romantic, by using the friends to lovers avenue. With that in mind, are you using "I have a boyfriend" to filter for platonic men, which theoretically could end in the friends-to-lovers trope, accidentally or intentionally on either persons part?
what happens when the friends to lovers trope, alot of women's ideal, occurs? Then was that entire pre-dating relationship retconned to actually be romantic? was it platonic or romantic? It seems like self referring. If you like him and dated him, it was always platonic. if you dont like him and didnt date him, it was always secretly romantic. It seems like what the friendship was in reality depends on its ultimate outcome and not what was actually occuring. I dont often hear "he pretended to be my friend to date me and then we dated" which kind of means no true friendship can turn into romance, because what if you date, and he says he always wanted to date you from the start? does that friendship get re-written as romantic over platonic? Can a guy not view you romantically and treat you platonically, now he's "hiding his true intentions?" it seems like an impossible standard.
I hope I got my point across well, I just find this very confusing
Context on me: AMAB, didn’t consider being non-binary until late 20s/early 30s. Raised by a single mother, overwhelmingly have women friends. Also AuDHD.
Women are certainly more properly socialized and have emotional education thrust upon them, but do you truly believe yourselves to be more emotionally *intelligent*? Just as there’s a difference between intelligence and education in general, I think the same is true for emotional intelligence.
In my experience, there isn’t necessarily a difference in how emotionally intelligent men are vs women. The biggest difference appears to be familiarity with the topic rather than outright proficiency. I mentioned being AuDHD earlier; the significance here being that I had to go through a lot of emotional education, and at this point I feel like I’ve pretty much caught up to the average woman. I’ve also known plenty of men who could intuitively understand social situations despite not being able to name specific feelings or concepts, just like I’ve known plenty of women who act as immature and petulant as any man despite having a full arsenal of therapy-speak to dig into.
Even further than that, I think a lot of women (not even half, but a significant chunk) cross straight into Dunning-Kruger territory on emotional intelligence because it’s constantly hammered home how much better than men they are in this regard.
So yeah, I’m just curious whether you believe your advantage in this domain is innate or conditioned? I typically try not to believe there are innate differences between the sexes aside from the physical attributes, but browsing subs like this makes that belief hard to maintain.
I (m32) have had plenty of partners over the years and no matter how hard I try I can never seem to get women to enjoy sexting. I’ve tried games, RP, mutual masterbating, ect.
If you are a woman who enjoys sexting, what do you enjoy about it and how does your partner enhance your experience?
I have been talking to people alot more lately and I cant help but come to the conclusion that taken women are much more comfortable talking to me and I find it kind of bizarre. Why does your relationship status influence your willingness to have a conversation? Is it that more social people are more likely to be in relationships?* Do they like the attention and validation without commitment? Do single women think youre always hitting on them if you talk to them?
As somebody who has very little dating experience, wants a girlfriend, but generally isnt attractive enough to do do, i often struggle with getting ANY positive attention for women.
For example, i have a female friend i met at a badminton club and we text sometimes and shes super nice and very attentive like sending 7 texts in a row or being enthusiastic. And even that attention makes me start liking her even though i have to snap back into reality and realize shes just being nice and i know im not her type at all.
Getting positive female attention is like getting a bottle of water when you’re dying of thirst in a desert, and i keep mistaking it for something its not.
But then i realize how will i find a relationship if i assume every girl im talking to doesnt like me? It just seems impossible to figure out which is which
I just stumbled across an earlier post from here that asked if women would pay for a male prostitute if he was very attractive and it was a resounding no for the most part.
What really struck me was all the comments saying they could easily get good sex even from handsome men at a moments notice completely for free.
So let's say you're a relatively inexperienced average guy, are there any qualities you miss that we can demonstrate without the relationship turning platonic?
If you were out and single and how would prefer a man tried to get you meet you. I'm tall, I dress well, I exercise like 4x a week, and I cannot meet women to save my life. No matter where I go, it just never happens. I'm a 33M and my interests are pretty eclectic: art, poetry, fashion, metal and goth music, nature, conventions, paganism, hippie festivals, etc. Weird stuff like that. And it feels like every where I go, either there are no women like that there, they're all too young, or everyone is in groups. I am introverted and I do have anxiety, so I'm always respectful and platonic, and I make sure not to encroach or impose but I just never meet anyone.
If you were looking to meet men, what would be the most logistical venue and what approach would be the most appealing? I'm at my wit's end.
Just curious: when you meet someone for the first time, what attracts you the most?
Their looks? Their eyes? Their sense of humor? Their confidence? The way they talk?
And most importantly, has it ever turned out to be completely different from what you expected at first?
I’m curious to hear about your experiences
I’ve noticed that when I compliment women that I know respectfully, but often. The response often includes “friend”.
It all sounds positive right but my mind turns “friend” into ...you are creepy. I’m not interested in you in that way.
I myself find the notion of progress to be rather complicated with some things getting better while others much worse. So as a man I’d be curious to know what general consensus there is among women, here at least, about the idea of the world getting better for women.