I’m not misogynistic, but I do have a hard time feeling actively fond of women when they think of my stature as so unattractive. I find it insulting

TL;DR:

My shy, introverted girlfriend has suddenly turned into a biting, sniffing, crying, hair-obsessed, ice-cream-craving gremlin who wants hickeys. Is this ovulation, or did she get bitten by a werewolf or a vampire?

Hey Ladies,

27M here, GF is 26F. We’re both super shy, quiet introverts who usually avoid romance/sex talk.

Here is what she’s been doing lately:

• The Sudden Aggression: Out of nowhere, she’s started biting me. She also randomly asks me to give her a hickey, which is way bolder than her usual shy self.
• The Sniffing: She will literally just sniff me and tell me, "I love your body odor." To be honest, it makes me a little uncomfortable because, well, it's sweat? But she seems obsessed with it.
• The Needy/Rough Hugs: She’ll pull me in for these intense hugs. If I try to resist or pull away, she’ll playfully (but kinda hard) hit me with her hands.
• Mood Swings & Leg Pulling: She’ll tease me or literally pull my leg for no reason, and then the next minute, she’s crying.
• Food Confusions: She’ll demand ice cream, and then immediately complain about how much she hates sugar.
• The Hair Envy: She suddenly wants to play with my hair constantly, while simultaneously telling me how much she envies it.

As a shy guy, I'm a bit overwhelmed by the sudden shift from quiet introvert to this feral, affectionate, emotional roller coaster.

Ladies, are these secret signs of ovulation? What are your "tell me you're ovulating without telling me" signs? Help a clueless boyfriend out!

Ps: I'm a man who found out about "how children are born" in my 23 and I grew up with 2 younger brothers.

I am a 23 year old man I live in Georgia but am from the Bay Area. I dated a Woman for a majority of my high school life and we recently got back in touch. We broke up soon after we graduated in 2020. We have reconciled, I gave a sincere apology for my immature behavior when we were younger and she apologized as well. She said she was interested in being friends again. This was months ago. Since then, I have unfortunately caught feelings again.

We talk every few weeks, the conversations aren't short or dry she truly engages. Our most recent conversation was simple but very meaningful. I believe that we are genuinely building a rapport again and reestablishing emotional comfort. We have only talked on social media up to this point but was given the green light to text her on her number last week. I will be moving home by the end of this year and visiting in July.

The advice I'm seeking is about whether or not I need to tell her i have feelings again. On one hand i am more that okay with being friends for an extended period of time to regain her trust. On the other it feels like I'm being deceitful because i now have different intentions than when i originally reached out. There's also the fact that we live far away from each other for the time being and how do you even build a relationship that way. There's also the fact that I'm always the one that initiates conversation, but i kind of see that as her being safe because i am the one who hurt her. Yea id love some advice.

I am also worried that it may be too emotionally heavy if i just tell her my intentions. There's warmth and a comfort in our conversations but i dont want to overwhelm her.

TLDR: I am back in contact with my long time ex. She said she wanted to be friends a few months ago. I caught feelings again. Am I being deceitful by continuing the friendship knowing that my intentions are different than when we began?

Me (23M) and my girlfriend (21F) have been together for about 6 months.

A while ago we tried having sex for the first time and I couldn’t stay hard long enough to actually get it in. We eventually stopped trying and honestly never really spoke about it after that.

After that happened, whenever I tried to initiate anything sexual she would usually reject it. At first I just assumed maybe the timing was bad or I wasn’t approaching it right. One time I tried being a bit more direct/confident and she flat out rejected me again, which started making me feel like maybe she just wasn’t attracted to me.

She could tell it was affecting me and eventually asked to have an open conversation about it. She explained that her last sexual experience before me was really bad, and then after things didn’t work with us the first time, she started seriously overthinking sex in general and now feels like she needs time to get over it mentally.

Honestly, after she explained that, a lot of her behaviour started making more sense to me.

The problem is now I have no idea what I’m supposed to do. She’s not really the type to initiate sex or bring the topic up herself, so now it feels like we both avoid the subject completely, both physically and conversationally.

I don’t want to pressure her or make her feel worse, but at the same time I also don’t know how long I’m supposed to just leave things alone without talking about it. I care about her a lot and I’m trying to be understanding, but I’d be lying if I said it hasn’t affected my confidence too.

Has anyone been in a situation like this before? What’s the right balance between giving someone space and avoiding the issue entirely?

I worked with a woman a few years ago. I liked her from when we first met. I snap chatted and texted her a bit. It was good talks at first, very engaged and interested throughout the first year or so. I was thinking maybe she liked me back. Though when I finally told her how I felt, she said she was more into women than men but liked one particular guy at the moment. I didn’t press further nor did she explain. I thought it might’ve been me.

We hung out a bit outside of work too some time after. Went out to eat a few times. Went to a work dinner and had a good time. She even bought me a matching shirt with her. But over time her messages became less engaged and less frequent. Easy one word responses or ignoring more engaging questions. I eventually asked her to another work dinner. She said yes. But when I got there she was with another guy. She went up to me, briefly gave me a hug and said hi, it was good to see me, then sat with him and enjoyed her night while I left early feeling anxious and confused. I ended up apologizing thinking that I was wrong in thinking that those were dates we went on. I went down a spiral thinking I was a creep and maybe I just didn’t understand social interactions.

After that we bumped into each other a few times from then til last year. She was now with the guy from before. She would hug me and compliment me, though I never knew how to respond not awkwardly haha. I was always happy to see her and would be excited to chat. The last time I had seen her though, I was having a bit of a bad day, I was having jealous thoughts. She complimented me but I responded very curtly, saying thank you and left the conversation quickly, I felt so so bad doing this. She said “Oh” in a small voice and I felt terrible. I apologized in a message afterward but she left me on read. (The past year or so from then had a lot of times I’d get left on read or delivered for weeks. But she would apologize and say she was dealing with stuff in her life.). I was just so confused and dealing with jealous feelings that I knew I had to address and quell. We hadn’t talked since then, just rare small work interactions. She still speaks warmly when we do, calling me dear or darling. I’ve worked to not think about her as much anymore or to care much about everything, just trying to recenter myself. I’m just confused and feel like I’m not where I’m supposed to be.

Am I wrong for thinking there was something there? So many times I’ve really struggled thinking I might just be some creep not seeing the signs and trying to insert myself into her life. Or worse I pushed her away by being an anxious mess somewhere along the line.

I (24/M) am in the Army and I am stationed in Fort Campbell KY. I get out of the army in a few months so I went ahead and bought a house with my wife (25/F) where we’re both from in Texas. So currently we’re long distance. I recently bought her a car, a Kia K5 2025 specifically. She really loves in and is buying so many accessories for the car, she’s been posting it on her social media as she wants to get attention for it. Some guy invited her to a car group for Kia’s or KDM in general, and gets invited to go to Car meets. I told her I didn’t know how to feel about that. As the car group is predominately guys. So she’s going to go to car meets with a bunch of new guys she doesn’t know, and my wife is absolutely beautiful and I didn’t know how to feel about that. I told her and she was upset and called me insecure, sure I was a bit over reactive, given the fact that our marriage is already pretty rocky and pretty much dead, and im seeing this as her chance to find someone else to move on with. So she went and started going. A bit of back story im getting out of the army medically and getting targeted snd harassed by my leadership for it, aka my life is currently hell, im super stressed, anxious, and paranoid. And all while that, she’s going out with other people to Car meets, and i feel so left out. I let her know, and again gets upset and calls me insecure again. At this point I have a way into her socials, and access to her Gmail. Which I then go into without her permission to make sure nothings going on. Eventually she finds out I did and gets extremely upset, which is an understatement. I told her I wouldn’t invade her privacy again, we moved on, she kept going to meets every weekend, and I had no idea what was going on. We barely talked during the week. She told me about this guy named Michael and how he bought her a drink, and how multiple guys called her cute. She even started wearing makeup up and lashes, which she’s only done once for me ever in the span of our relationship.. Eventually out of a panic attack I go into her phone again breaking my promise of not doing that again. Idiotic mistake. But she finds out I did it again, and goes livid. Fast forward to recent events, I finally went on leave for 11 days and I’m now in Texas with her. And the first few days were nice, but I notice she spends so much time talking to her group chat. To the point where I go out and find my own thing to do because she’s so preoccupied with them. Since I’ve been down here she’s taken me to a few meets, and so far it’s been pretty good. I had fun, I’m feeling more secure about the situation. But now I don’t like how she talks so much to them and preoccupies herself so much so that I often have to find something to do by myself. I also notice how she talks to them vs how she talks to me, she talks to them with flavor, emojis, reaction pictures, excitement and happiness. When she texts me it’s straight forward and business. That’s something else I don’t like. And how I’ve told her before I’d like if she reacted or replied to the reels/tiktoks I send her and she said she just doesn’t do that. But she’s reacting and commenting to every single reel this group chat sends… she leaves me on delivered as she’s texting them… I feel so left out, I feel so unimportant, I feel so unseen. She gets super upset whenever I try to bring that up, and calls me insecure. What do I do??

TL;DR Wife has new car group she seems to value over me

Does you being his first date at that age turn you off?

hi, straight 23 M.

I have a thick dark eyebrow, and I personally like to put an eyeliner, but I am just wondering if it's gonna make women think I am gay, and push them away.

My new boyfriend (28, turns 29 soon) is the loveliest guy I’ve ever known. I’m trying not to ask much at all as I (28f) don’t want to come across in constant need for validation as that’s not what this is, but it’s just that due to my past with unfortunate non-consensual intimate interaction (which I told him about early on as he makes me feel safe).

For context -

I have given him oral fo**play etc (fo**play is both of our favourite and preferred intimacy over pen****tive s** if we had to choose. He admitted that to me first before I was going to admit. His turn on is giving fo**play).
Long story but with him knowing my unfortunate past, he understandably wants me to initiate when I’m ready for physical intimacy like him giving me fo**play, as my preferred fo**play is unique to him. After communicating my preference, he said he’s never experienced my preference of fo**play i.e. when a female has very sensitive cl** so fin***ing or immediate direct cl** work is uncomfortable/ initially painful. And so general pressure over our full ge**tal area with whole hand surrounding these areas/ clothed gr**ding to build full ar**sal is much more pleasurable to get to the mutual desired end point to lead to pen****tion.

We started talking on hinge about 4 months ago, moved to whatsapp just under two weeks after, then 3 weeks in (since meeting on hinge) we met in person and had our first date (he asked me on a date, we planned it but it was refreshingly all initiated by him asking me what I’d like to do). The first date was so lovely, no awkward silences, just super open and honest without being too much for the first time meeting in person. It’s been so nice ever since. He’s mature, confident, empathetic, funny, and very kind. He knows what he wants and was open from the first date i.e. ready to settle down, wants a family etc but doesn’t want to waste anyone’s or his own time. I am exactly the same.

He assures me he is not losing interest and that a relationship is much more than sex, that his priorities are having things in common, morals, family, and sex comes after those (we have both admitted we needed some balance with physical attraction obviously which we are both v attracted to each other physically as well as personality) and he promised me that he would always be honest in telling me if he was losing interest etc. so far I have 0 reason to doubt him as he has always stuck to his word.

Even though he can afford it, he still lives with him parents whilst actively house hunting with mortgage advisor (I am also actively looking, we both were when we met which is so refreshing as we are both independent and want to have property in own name initially for investment and financial stability and independence initially, not for long term forever home yet). So so far we have only have a couple opportunities of having over night in private, one time on a city break holiday and another on a night away. So that’s a huge reason as to why this is still happening I.e. me with this intimacy hurdle. I usually feel comfort in getting intimate with someone over time I’ve gotten used to staying close with someone e.g. my ex had his own place so I would stay over a lot and then a few months in it just naturally happened when it felt right. But obviously my bf and I don’t have the luxury of that yet.

So my main question is to men, if you really like her and see long term, how long would you wait? (Considering the above context of possible rather than just this one question in isolation).

I ended my relationship, one red flag (my opinion) was because guys would flirt with my girlfriend and she found it amusing. I insisted that she should tell them she had a boyfriend and at least avoid responding to their suggestive comments. But she argued that she wasn’t encouraging them, she would just reply with 'Haha' and said that was her way of ignoring them. I explained to her that, for a man, that doesn’t mean stop — it only encourages him to keep doing it. The thing was that his entire social circle were man like this.This made me feel distrustful…

Got a question for anyone reading this. I’ve been told that my dating history — or lack of one — can be seen as a red flag to women. I’m 33, I’ve never been in a relationship, and I’ve only been on two dates, both within the last year.

I’ve been told that never having been in a relationship is a concern or is it a red flag for most women. Is that actually true?

Just curious if any men notice any signs that a woman is attracted to you at the gym.

TIA

Title kinda says it all I don't want to necessarily date a twig idk alot of guys who do idk maybe it's the media making girls think they gotta look a certain way but I truly truly enjoy(the female form) a girl with a little bit of curves (not that I really actually care about physical attractiveness but it helps) (id really love to just meet a girl I click with)like I mean when I was like 14-20ish yea but I seriously actually want something to hold on to keep me warm at night I don't want a toothpick although I do love you skinny girls it's just like there's some one for every one I've almost broken my pelvis a few times I feel like chubby -bigger girls don't get any credit and girls kill themselves trying to look like some girl they saw on Instagram don't ruin you you're beautiful I'm not like rare either a lot of guys feel this way I guess my question is why do girls who have like a few extra immediately think no one will love them

I am a 27 year old man.

This question is for women in the 21–40 age range.

How do you prefer a guy your age to introduce himself when you first meet?

I want to improve my social skills so I can build genuine friendships and meaningful relationships.

As a man I often feel confused and incompetent because I don’t know how to bring this up. I worry about killing the mood or any future relationship from asking about it and I often feel lonely and depressed? What is the most polite and appropriate way to ask such a question?

[removed]