Probably a horrible place to ask for help but here we are.
I’m M/35 and my gf F/41 have been together for close to 3 years and living together since last August.
This is when problems started between us. It seems like everything i suggest is shot down and my feelings are downplayed. I feel like I don’t have a say with anything regarding our son. She doesn’t let my family around him, but I have literally saw her friends holding him. To be completely transparent I’m off of medication that really helped me. Per her request because in her mind it doesn’t fix problems it numbs them. And her 5 year old is an absolute nightmare. Screams yells and is just uncontrollable. I work nights and I asked very politely to ask the kids to kinda stay quiet while I’m asleep. That set off a whole storm of rants which I have multiple screenshots of. I don’t yell I don’t cuss when I ask the kids not to do something but apparently I’m a bad role model and I’ve produced a toxic environment. I’m at my wits end with everything because I’ve literally changed everything about how I do things. It’s to the point I’m afraid to say anything to them when I walk in the room out of fear it will get used against me. I feel like she looks for problems and if she doesn’t find one she creates one. I’m no doctor but there’s something going on here, and she has said no to counseling for us and the kids (they are highly sensitive) and “no counseling helps those types of people “. I feel like my hands are tied. I’m not happy and have slept in another room since December. Help please I have no idea what to do anymore or what to think. I literally have to turn the WiFi off at night because the emf frequencies are bad when you sleep, but it’s totally fine when they use it all day. I pay for everything literally every household bill outside of food. And that’s still not good enough. I feel like she has a problem for every solution. I can’t post this on my regular socials for obvious reasons if there is a dr or an expert on mental health who can explain what on earth is going on and how I can mitigate the impact of every thing please let me know dm if you want I’m grasping at straws at this point or am I just crazy o ?