Can this get better without HRT
We are about 4 years into this adventure of perimenopause at this point. To say it has effected our house would be a understatement. To add on to the situation she got laid off from her job as a software engineer early this year and as anyone looking for work in that portion of the tech industry knows those jobs are not easy to find right now. Unfortunately she was the primary breadwinner in our house so I’m working 60 to 70 hour a week to try and make up for the lose of income. I go in early so I can be home by 5 so the kids don’t stress her out to much. Most nights by the time I get the kids to bed and to bed myself I get 4 to 5 hour of sleep. In my twenties I could easily work this much on less sleep but those days are behind me and I am wearing out.
I have done much reading and listening to professionals on podcast and it seems the simple answer for her to get some relief from symptoms would be HRT. Even if everything was good in all other aspects of our lives the answer to regaining any sex drive is HRT. Unfortunately she is reluctant to even consider them because her mother had her first stroke after starting them when she was a teenager and she thinks that is the cause.
Is there any literature are sources that have been helpful in convincing a spouse or your self that HRT is safe if done correctly. I fear I will have to switch jobs to try and make significantly more money. Unfortunately this will leave the majority of the responsibility of raising our kids to her and I don’t know if that’s doable right now with the way she feels.
Also what are the odds that if she keeps going through this natural things will get better. Looking forward after she is menopausal and hormones level out is there a chance she regains any desire for me again.
Any advice or personal experiences are appreciated. Thanks