u/Adventurous-Ring-898

Hey there! I’m a 2nd year OCAD student looking to move closer to campus before the Fall term starts up. Would be looking to move around the AGO/Chinatown area in downtown Toronto in August.

So, does anyone know where to find affordable housing near campus? I’m queer and trans friendly, responsible and pretty easygoing, and my budget is $1200/month. Most bachelor apartments are far more expensive than that.

If anyone’s looking for a roommate, let me know!

Hi there, new to this sub. Really, I’m just looking for advice on supporting both myself and my bipolar s/o during depressive episodes from those more experienced than myself in these plights.

Some background: My long-distance s/o has BP2 (medicated, not in therapy) and consistently oscillates between tenderhearted affection and near complete emotional isolation in our relationship. The dark days that contribute to his withdrawal are often situational and there’s little I can do there to help as he’s often resistant to receiving words of encouragement or suggestions of pursuing therapy again. That’s unfortunately the most of what I can achieve while long-distance, so I often find myself feeling powerless when he gets into the suicidal jokes and otherwise cynical responses. Above all, it’s about getting through it together in quiet mutual understanding that it needs to be waited out.

The disconcerting, back-and-forth nature of his affections are what trouble me. It brings an almost impersonal and inconsistent air between us that makes it difficult for us to have solid ground to stand on. Those little flickers or big bursts being followed up by days of a clear lack of engagement really messes with your nervous system. It’s not his fault—and I appreciate the apologies that come with him being more levelheaded—but I find my needs and bids for connection go unmet at times, causing anxiety.

The transition from intentionally staying up late this week because he missed me terribly after working multiple days in a row and wanting to exchange emotionally intimate words, to now essentially dismissing and not engaging with me all day (which, even on his bad days, is unlike him) because he’s decided he doesn’t want my company today is causing deep upset. He called me “champ” today? Anyway…

Things left unsaid will always rear their ugly heads in relationships at one point or another, and I don’t want resentment to build up, so I want to properly address this with him. I’m not sure what we can do to mitigate this when it’s the disorder troubling both of us, not necessarily his actions alone. He’s not the type to hand-wave his poor behavior as “the illness”, his symptoms are just more apparent as of late.

I love him deeply, and I don’t want to villainize him or this disorder. It’s a terrible thing to live with, and I hope there’s a viable solution.

Please feel free to impart some wisdom upon me.