I think my husband of 14 years is bipolar
Hi all, this is gonna be a bit of a ramble post so I apologize in advance,
I 38f have been married to my husband 47m for 14 years,
I knew pretty early on in our marriage he had ADHD or so we thought (he was diagnosed with depression and adhd about 3 years in)
it’s been a constant struggle through the years to keep him on his meds, he went off again last year and has since started back since February of this year,
I thought they weren’t working anymore to be honest because he’s just always angry all the time,
he hardly sleeps maybe 3 or 4 hours a night. Always gaming or on the phone, can’t focus , and he’s stopped hygiene pretty much all together, he’ll maybe shower once a week if I tell him to.
Anyway, he spent a lot of money gambling online while I was admitted in the hospital for diverticulitis.
He’s argued with a lot of my family and his friends. He got to the point of actually taking my phone and blocking my nephew and my uncle. I unblocked them, but he never took my phone from me before.
He got angry and started breaking things in the house
and this last blowup we had was because I am so sick all of the time and he can’t take it anymore.
I gave him his walking papers and said I can’t deal with this anymore.
He then started crying, and saying that he can’t be without me. I gave him an ultimatum of either, He gets help ,gets on medicine and stays on it this time, or we are getting a divorce.
he had a trip planned to go see his son and grandson in Las Vegas and also play in the World Series of poker.
He promised as soon as he gets back from his trip he will get with the doctor and start meds.
I don’t want to divorce him, but I don’t think I can keep living like this. I’m asking for advice as to what to expect and how to even get started. Obviously, I know he needs to see his primary doctor, but can you tell me how you got your spouses or significant other others help, and do you feel things got better once they got help?
Ty in advance. - lost hurting and tired.