I almost wish my BP partner would read this subreddit and come to realize how their behavior affects SO's
As SO's we're all here trying to rant, portray, ask and support each other, which i think is great.
I try to stay mindful by weeding out the negative, bias posts.
But, i do wonder, if things would be different had there been a safe space for BP partners to go through these testimonies and learn the extent of hurt or stress that this illness causes.
To feel and think about it on a more personal level, not just a "other than myself", "them" issue.
I say that because like a lot of these BP SO situations, i do go through tremendous amount of time supporting and listening, and taking the brunt of harmful, lash out phrases from my partner in time of need myself. After every conflict we talk, he apologizes and really checks in with himself, but it often cycles around and around himself due to a minute level of narcissism.
(which often is the case and a common behavioral trait/habit with those suffering with BP)
I just wish BP partners could use this type of forum to better reflect on themselves.
and use it as reference to correct their behavior.