u/Calm_Angle7551

I’m struggling with how to word this correctly because I truly do not want to offend anybody.
Something I have noticed about my previous partner is that when he was manic, he would go great lengths to manipulate people.
An example: after a discard we ended up reconnecting. At one point, he insisted that I delete my text messages. He framed it as a way for us to have a new beginning. When I calmly told him I didn’t feel it to be necessary for me, he became increasingly irate and emotionally punishing. He came up with different reasons as to why I needed to and framed me not doing so as a character flaw in me.

Come to find out, he was seeing someone else and portraying our relationship as over. So I really think it was just about him covering his tracks.

I genuinely do not mean to imply to say that every person with bipolar is like this or that mental illness causes this kind of behavior because I don’t think that’s the case. But I am curious if it’s something that shows up in bipolar disorder when there is a severe manic episode.

So the usual story, partner was hypomanic, the became fully manic last summer, discarded me in September, paranoid and accusatory towards me, kicked me out of our home.

We got back in touch 4 months ago. He was talking about accountability (that he has to be accountable, it’s the only option) looking at his attachment patterns, (not enough insight into bipolar yet).
We start hanging out again, but mania is clearly still there. Still gets incredibly irate, circular arguments, rewriting our relationship, took back what he said about accountability. I am not allowed to speak about what he did to me. He threatened to cut me off if I didn’t delete all of our texts.

Suddenly, he is now only a solo poly man, and moved on and says that our relationship just felt like being trapped and he will never be in a solo relationship again. That he’s grown so much and did shadow work and figured himself out. That the universe guides him and he wants a tribe. But still talks to me daily, has sex with me. I’m his best friend. He has no insight. He’s so positive and “doing better than ever”. I miss the man who was so in love with me, fought for me and built a life with me- his humility and fairness, his want to understand and grow in a healthy way.

He has been more tired and started to sleep more. I can’t tell if he’s coming down but the sleep made me think so? What do you guys think?
Is he just gone forever? He is unmedicated.