u/Adventurous-Safe-760

Partner just got approved to transfer to New York office. We want to move to Jersey City or Hoboken & commute into NY. We're planning to pack all our stuff and road trip across the country. Any tips or advice to make this entire process as smooth as possible? Any personal accounts of people who have done the same? Anything is appreciated really. Thank you!

Edit: Want to add that we're looking for a studio or 1-br w/ in-unit washer & dryer with a budget of $3K/month. Idk if that means anything but figure it's worth adding.

To preface, I don't know if I'm necessarily converting just yet. I'm observing shabbat and have began attending a Reform synagogue near me. It's really nice. During this exploration process, when I read books like Living a Jewish Life by Anita Diamant, or Here All Along by Sarah Hurwitz, I am left with an empowered feeling that I, too, can feel comfortable as a transgender woman in exploring Judaism. That there is room for religion as a powerful tool in my life, just as much as everyone else. That's a great feeling coming from an Evangelical Christian background. Something I've never experienced with religion before and I don't want to let it go.

However, those feelings of safety in Judaism come to a screeching halt when I find out that Sarah Hurwitz recommends resources from people who are transphobic; people I would never knowingly want to support (like Bari Weiss (transphobe) or Rabbi Sacks (who has stated that Judaism is not okay with gay marriage)), or when the sub constantly recommends sources from Joseph Telushkin, who believes that trans women shouldn't be allowed to play in women's sports. Personally, I don't care to support those who believe I should have less rights than them simply because I'm trans. I'm sure many Jewish people can empathize with that.

So that's why I'm asking here today: Are there any authors of books on Judaism who are supportive of the trans community? Who do believe that we are people who deserve to be able to do the same things as everyone else? They don't need to be explicitly about supporting the LGBTQ+ community, but they should at least not have a record of them saying things that are inherently transphobic or homophobic.

Surely there must be others like me?

EDIT: I just want to say thank you to everyone who responded and provided resources/places to look! It is exactly what I was looking for and this post exceeded expectations in terms of responses. I appreciate it so much. Truly 😄 I also just wanna say that you are all right. I can't just run away or discredit the ways someone may be able to help me just because I don't agree with their views. I'm someone who uses my dollar to show support but I suppose with how new being trans is to Judaism, I'm asking for a bit much. Maybe it'll be easier in the future. For now, I'll take what I can get (plus, I'm sure they have some good information to offer). Thank you!