GF (F26) views Obsessive Compulsive behavior as me (F25) not trusting her
Hi! I’m going to keep this short and attach the messages she’s sent me. We’ve been together for 3.5 years and moved in together about a year ago, it’s been rough since the move. Recently, I’ve been struggling with checking things over and over and being paranoid. I’m not diagnosed with anything except anxiety. Locks on doors are a big deal for me, I will check a lock almost endlessly: over and over. The problem is that when my girlfriend locks the door and I go to check it: she sees it as me not trusting her. I’m frustrated because I’ve explained that I think theses something wrong with me and that it has nothing to do with my trust in her. She doesn’t believe me. I don’t know what to do. Here’s what she texted me this morning after I checked the door after she locked it;
“it makes me upset when you assume i'm trying to start an argument when all i want is you to agree that you disregarded your own words. and i feel like you can't blame it on your ocd, next time just wait there instead of just saying something you don't mean. it's not funny or cute to me when you do that to me multiple times a week. this doesn't just affect you, the people around you are affected as well. and for you to say don't take it personally drives me literally crazy man. that really has me feeling some type of way. bc it literally is personal. you literally said you trusted me to lock the door, walked away and went down the stairs to come right back up and watch me lock it and then to recheck my work. i've been telling you for weeks now i dont feel like you trust me and it's been a pretty big issue to me. this is exactly the stuff im talking about 1.i can't do this everyday.”
So yeah. I don’t even know what to say to her. I’m tired of every little thing being a fight. She also takes my anxiety personally.
THE QUESTION IS: Is she valid for being upset at this?
TLDR: Girlfriend thinks I don’t trust her because I check locks repeatedly.