Can cheating partners change
Been in a relationship for nearly 2 years. Both divorced in our early 40’s. Just recently found out that he has been paying escorts to come and see him or he goes to them. I didn’t pick up any change his in behaviour towards me. We get on really well, no problem in the bedroom area and he always told me when a man is happy in a relationship, he won’t go looking anywhere else. I am obviously in shock, deeply hurt and want to end things but he is saying he blacks out and makes these mistakes due to using party substance. He is saying he will change now as he doesn’t want to loose someone like me who is trustworthy and loyal. My argument is he is sorry because he got caught or else this would have continued.
I have never experienced a cheating situation before so I am unsure whether someone can genuinely change this behaviour or it’s all words as they wouldn’t want to see you with someone else in the future.
Also he was doing this while I am dealing with cancer. I am just gobsmacked how someone can be so loving towards you but yet do this behind your back. If it was a one night stand cheating situation I can understand but it was 4 or 5 escorts and 1 tranny
We do not live together and this all occurred at his place the cheating after he left my place pretending to go home and sleep but he would actually start partying and get escorts
To me this is not love towards someone. How do you say you love someone and do this ? I don’t believe this behaviour can change but has anyone experienced a situation like this before where the partner has changed ?