r/cheating_stories

I'm male (23) and my girlfriend (26) we are in a relationship from past 7years and we were happy with everything going on ..having fights getting back and being much stronger after every fight ..
but one day i got to know that she was never being true with me .. i don't know to how many guys she's been talking to or having fun but i caught her with one dude.. she's been messaging him in ig.. 2 years ago when we meet she logged in into her account in my mobile cause her phone was dead .. i dint remove her account ..that lead me here ... .. she was sexting dude's she was speaking low of me ..making fun of my every effort ..mocking me making me inferior those who she just met ..and when i confronted her ..she keeps on telling me selective story and somehow i was the one who made her talk to boys ..!!

My wife 39 F went to a music festival with a guy she knew from HS. I 49 m wasn’t aware of it she said she went with one of her girlfriends.

I later found out by seeing texts in her phone that she went on a date with the guy they ended up later in the week having a sexually charged conversation and exchanged nudes then set up a time to see each other and she chickened out and ghosted him.

I confronted her about it and she said she saw him there and exchanged numbers. And that it was all harmless flirting. Yet the text messages showed that they had talked a week prior to going to the music festival.

She went and had her hair done the day of. Then the rest. I said it was a date because it was lol and she said it wasn’t. They didn’t do anything sexual so that’s why she doesn’t see it as cheating.

Am I crazy for thinking that this is cheating?

Hey I’m 23M and I’m in a relationship with this girl for 2.5 years so now i really need to know about this cause at first I thought she was joking, but she was completely serious. She says she wouldn’t be upset, and apparently her friend is open to it too and when i said straight NO then she was like “ lets go for threesome”

Now I’m stuck wondering what’s actually going on here.

Would you see this as genuine openness, a test of the relationship or a massive red flag?

(Genuinely need a girl’s perspective also if this post reaches you)

My girlfriend and I are both 21 and we’ve been together for about two years. Recently, while we were having sex, she suddenly told me that she had thought about having sex with more than one man.

At first, I was honestly surprised and a little uncomfortable hearing it. I didn’t really know how to react, and because we were both very turned on at the time, I ended up saying a few similar things myself, partly because I felt like I had to respond in the same way and partly because I was caught up in the moment.

After we both calmed down and finished, she told me that she didn’t really understand why she had thought about it and that she believed it was probably because she was extremely aroused at the time. She also said that she had experienced similar thoughts before, which made me think about it more.

I’m trying not to judge her or immediately assume that this means she actually wants to do it. I know fantasies and actual desires aren’t necessarily the same thing, especially during sex. But I’d be lying if I said it didn’t make me feel confused and a little insecure.

Part of me wants to understand whether this is simply a fantasy that comes up when she’s turned on, or whether there is a genuine desire behind it. At the same time, I don’t want to make her feel ashamed or afraid to tell me what she thinks. I want her to be honest with me, even if some of her thoughts are difficult for me to hear.

I’m planning to talk to her about it when we’re both calm, rather than discussing it during sex. I want to understand what she actually feels and what she would genuinely want, without putting pressure on her either way.

For people who have experienced something similar: how would you interpret this? Do you think sexual fantasies like this can be completely separate from what someone actually wants to do in real life? And how would you approach this conversation with your partner?

Correction: When I told her about my fantasy of being with two girls, I felt like she seemed relieved after hearing it.

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Update: I talked to my girlfriend about it. She told me she actually doesn’t remember saying those things because she had drunk a lot that night. I thought she remembered everything, so finding out that she didn’t honestly hurt me quite a bit, especially because this was our first experience like this together.

When I told her what she had said, she said she felt disgusted by it and that it made her feel sick. She apologized because she felt that what happened had left me with a traumatic feeling, and she asked if we could just forget that night.

I’m trying to be understanding because I know she had drunk a lot and wasn’t fully aware of what she was saying, but I’m still hurt and confused by the whole situation. She feels so ashamed now that she says she’s embarrassed to even look at my face.

I honestly don’t know what to do with all of this yet. I think we both just need some time to process it.

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Final update: I love her a lot, and because I genuinely wanted to understand what happened, I even read a book about sexual fantasies trying to make sense of it.

I spent a long time writing pages about the things she said that night while she was drunk. I wrote everything I was feeling and what was going through my mind, and I actually sent it to her, but then deleted it before she could read it because I didn’t have the courage to let her see it.

She noticed that I was upset and wanted to talk about it face to face. My previous update was based on our messages, but this time we actually sat down and talked in person.

When I let her read what I had written, she was shocked. She kept saying, “I swear I never thought about any of this. It never even crossed my mind.” I know that reading this might make it sound like she’s lying or hiding something, but honestly, seeing her reaction in person made me believe that she was telling the truth.

At one point, when she read the part where I mentioned my fantasy about being with two girls, she even asked me why I stopped there and didn’t continue writing about it. She told me that if she were in my position, she would either break up or completely shut down and cry.

She apologized over and over, and we ended up crying together about the fact that we had gone through this situation. I asked her, “If you get that drunk again, is this what you’re going to be like?” She told me, “I’ll always be with you. I won’t ever drink that much again.” She kept telling me again and again that none of what I was afraid of was actually true.

Some people may say, “Just give it time.” And maybe they’re right. Maybe things will become clearer with time, or maybe they won’t.

But one thing I’ve realized through all of this is how far love can push you to understand someone. I honestly don’t remember ever pushing the limits of the word “understanding” this hard in my life.

Hi everyone im looking for some advice. M 36 found my wife starting to pack lace panties when she goes to conferences. Is this a sign that she might be cheating on me?

Hi everyone this is an update to the original story posted here some time ago:

https://www.reddit.com/r/cheating\_stories/s/jn80vo1Evl

I would like to thank everyone who commented on the post and let you guys know that I broke up with the lying (ex)girlfriend and saved myself from further embarrassment. I feel like a huge burden has been lifted from my shoulders and I can focus on my next steps.

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So context me (20M) has a cousin (19F) she is my second cousin

There was a time of 2 years where me, her, her little brother and grandparents lived in the same house, cause my school and her school was closer to that house than our own.

We were close and stuff, like hanging out after school, going to hidden locations in town, i even once dated her friend for a while. But after that relation she been acting different towards me lile touchy and stuff but i didnt think much off it, but people tent to notice when my jokes make her laugh to the ground

And im not that hot of a guy or anything but i have dated my fair share

So she ask about my daring storys but get madder when i mention the intimate moments

Okey anyway, and we left eachother around when i graduated but we still messaged everyday

2 days ago there was a fest like family fest, and me and her met again and talked humg out and stuff

And i dont remember why but when i say she left her phone unlocked i took it and just randomly browsed and randomly i thought abt checking her search history and i saw a barrage of cousin porπ and i was tkaen aback and closed it

Im her only cousin soo im thinking about confronting her but idk cause her action has made me think she wanted something btw us but idk

So this one’s a bit complicated but I’ll get right into it. My bf ‘m 25’, me ‘f 23’, and his brother ‘m 20’ hangout all of the time and me and the brother have gotten super close. So one night we are all hanging out getting drunk and we end up having a threesome. This has happened about 3 times now.

The thing is though is that the brother has a gf and now I’m feeling really shitty. Our hangouts turned into something else, they both want me every time we hangout and get drunk together. I’m not going to lie and say I don’t enjoy it and I’m also not gonna lie and say I haven’t gotten any feelings for the brother from this so….my heads just in a downward spiral.

I feel like a shitty person and I don’t know if I should tell his gf or not. I don’t want the brother getting mad at me and I also don’t want to ruin the relationship between my bf and his brother because he will be mad at both of us if I tell her. What should I do? should I just tell her? Or?

We live in same area and see each other everyday

And we are in same class too.

How do I move on.

It is very difficult for me.

I can't afford therapy.

My mind can't process that.

Um getting anxiety,panic attacks and constantly thinking abut her..

So my husband is a pilot and some flight attendant he works with I guess called my dad? She found the number on the internet. Idk if she was trying to contact me but she said that my husband sexually assaulted her.

Then 2 months later we got served with with restraining order papers. My husband says this chick is just crazy.

But ya he showed me the texts and she talked inappropriately to him but he asked if she was gonna report him. Idk and I guess she’s reported others before. But he did say he cheated but not all the way. And says she came onto him.
He ended up having to resign in leui of termination tho and was posted on are we dating the same guy multiple times but he’s saying it’s just her doing that.

However one of the posts said that they had never met him but he wouldn’t take no for an answer online?

We have a family together and idk what to believe. And he promises she came onto him and that he loves me

Been in a relationship for nearly 2 years. Both divorced in our early 40’s. Just recently found out that he has been paying escorts to come and see him or he goes to them. I didn’t pick up any change his in behaviour towards me. We get on really well, no problem in the bedroom area and he always told me when a man is happy in a relationship, he won’t go looking anywhere else. I am obviously in shock, deeply hurt and want to end things but he is saying he blacks out and makes these mistakes due to using party substance. He is saying he will change now as he doesn’t want to loose someone like me who is trustworthy and loyal. My argument is he is sorry because he got caught or else this would have continued.

I have never experienced a cheating situation before so I am unsure whether someone can genuinely change this behaviour or it’s all words as they wouldn’t want to see you with someone else in the future.
Also he was doing this while I am dealing with cancer. I am just gobsmacked how someone can be so loving towards you but yet do this behind your back. If it was a one night stand cheating situation I can understand but it was 4 or 5 escorts and 1 tranny

We do not live together and this all occurred at his place the cheating after he left my place pretending to go home and sleep but he would actually start partying and get escorts
To me this is not love towards someone. How do you say you love someone and do this ? I don’t believe this behaviour can change but has anyone experienced a situation like this before where the partner has changed ?