r/cheating_stories

Well while we broke up she left yes I cheated 100 % I was wrong, she left n fucked the same guy she been fucking over 9 years she had a relationship with somebody else she had a kid prior to me, every time she and her bd fight she will go see him, she says she doesn’t love the guy , we just has bby and this shit killing me, I take full accountability of my actions! I was wrong but her going to the same guy over n over is crazy to me ! What do you Guys think ? Is it love or a sex thing ?

Please can I get advice. Boyfriend of 3 years, both 50, do not live together. He stopped sex about a year ago, I assumed stressful job but said to him it was making me feel lonely, unloved and to be fair he did try small things like putting his arm around me. I felt myself getting lower and lower from him not showing me physically closeness and wondered if he might be getting it from elsewhere as he started a new job 2 years ago in a big company. I only see him at weekends. He told me I need to stop talking about it as it puts him off so I tried to shut up about how I was feeling. Two days ago I went into his washbag, first time ever and found a packet of viagra and another product to do the same thing, both had one pill missing from each. I didnt mention id found them and later in the day asked if he'd ever used them and if was having trouble and im there to support him he denied and said what would I need those for, so I left it knowing he was lying. Later in the day I knew he was going away with work staying in a hotel, I knew the wash bag was going with him...my mind was going crazy so I confronted him saying id found them, he shouted at me to " fu#k off and get out his house for going through his wash bag and how he can't trust me now"...he never told me why he had them he just told me to leave his house and got so mad. Please can someone offer advice if im seriously in the wrong as I feel so bad, ive never looked through his phone or anywhere in his house I just went through his wash bag to see if condoms were in there as knew he was going away and wasn't having sex with me but we did use condoms, I guess if I knew one was missing in a few weeks I know he'd been cheating. Surely a year of no sex anyone would start to think something was going on. ?

Just went through a bad “breakup”. Horrible words were said that I believed i meant in moment. We both said we hated eachother and never wanna see eachother again. Amoungst other things. Now looking back I wonder… I don’t necessarily want relationship back just wondering if u ever were able to speak calmly later on.

He let his friend who I asked for boundaries with stay over and they hooked up. I had went over to check up on him because he had been feeling sick lately and wasn’t answering my texts. I saw the aftermath. Condom. Alcohol. Desperation. Them knocked out on the floor. A mess. It was traumatic. How do I get it out of my head?

I’m going through waves of emotions. I’m feeling more numb and anger than anything. I don’t know what to do. We are supposed to exchange things later on today.

How do I get through this? I don’t want to feel. I don’t want to fall into old bad habits I used to do before I got with him. I was in a dark place getting drunk all the time. I wanted a life with him, but we hit a rocky patch recently. Then he cheats on me.

I’ve never been cheated on before. The idea of doing this all over again in the future with someone new is exhausting. I’m not young, but he was the first I’ve done many things with a male. Both emotionally and intimately. Basically the first man I really loved. I trusted him. I loved him. Now I have to force myself to move on because he took all that from me and slept with his best friend.

Recently i am in a exclusive relationship, but for some reason i had a couple of opportunities to cheat and i did, first with a girl in my university, dark skin, crazy ass, thin waist and another one at a party in my friends villa, skinny but with a nice figure, nice ass shape and good tits, very beautiful, idk why i keep fucking other girls while i have a good one already, who is a freak like me and very submissive. I had an idea of like trying to have a relationship the 3 of us but idk how to approach it.

The situation is really confusing and complex, I'll try to explain it simply.

Me and my fiance have been together for 8 years, since he was 18 and I was 20. We were inseparable for years and spent all of our time together and even worked together. Now we're graduating with degrees so he started a new job last year and I'm still finishing school so I've been financially dependent on him.

2 months ago my dad was diagnosed with four types of stage 4 cancer and he died a month after, so a month ago from today pretty much. I was depressed during this time and I'm sure it affected how I acted in the relationship and my partner says he was feeling depressed and unhappy. However, since we had a talk about it I've been putting on a happy face and things have been better. We just signed a two-year lease last week at a new place we were really excited for, and he just came on vacation with me and my family.

He has been staying late at work a lot lately but that's not atypical for his career, however not long ago he went out for drinks with his coworkers after work at like 10:00 p.m-1:00 a.m. while I was stranded at the new condo without any furniture or a car which I thought was extremely inconsiderate and we had an argument about it.

His birthday was on the 2nd, and he said he was working late. I believed him. For his birthday I went out and bought him a plant and I completely disassembled and reassembled his PC because it wasn't working and we couldn't figure out why, and I bought him a cake, and I waited for him at the condo all day doing all this stuff for him feeling bad for him for staying late. But, when he came home, I could just tell he hadn't been working, he wasn't sweaty or tired like he usually is, and he barely had one slice of cake which is again atypical for him because he loves sweets and if he was working for so long you should be hungry.

So I check his phone and I find out he was actually at dinner all evening from 6:00 p.m. to about midnight, out drinking with his friends or whatever and he had texted his friend something like "i have such a crush on this guy" and she said "he's giving major straight vibes". I freak out and rip the covers off of him and tell him to get out at 5:00 a.m. when I read that. I messaged him a lot saying really mean things, but at this point I kind of just think he left me out of his birthday dinner and he was being a little gross. He tells me it's actually a work crush and that he was afraid I would show up to this dinner and see this guy be friendly with him who's attractive and that I would freak out. Admittedly I can be jealous, but I'm also reasonable and understand that it's always possible that he's going to have an attractive co-worker and there's nothing I can do about that.

Through a lot of sleuthing and digging with him I basically learn and he tells me that basically a new coworker showed up who was attractive and he thought that the new co-workers into him and that he was having sexual thoughts, I asked if he wanted to have sex with him and he said yes, I asked if he thought about cheating and he said yes. He defended himself by saying that he was pretty sure I had cheated because he saw Grindr on my phone- which, yes, months ago once I used it to jerk off, but I didn't cheat. Anyway I guess he was kind of saying that the feelings came and then he was thinking you know sexual thoughts and then the fact that he thought that I had cheated made him feel less bad about it. I asked if he was trying to get close to him and the flirt with him and he said yes. Apparently he found out a week and a half after they started working together that the guy was married with kids and heterosexual, however, he then did this whole birthday dinner without me because again according to him he was worried I would freak out if I saw this guy.

I just don't know what to think. Me and my fiance grew up together it feels like, I always thought that there was something really special between us that was different than most couples and I really maybe a little too much was dependent on him for my security. I am emotionally crushed. I was so angry, I completely disassembled this computer, I put all of his belongings from the pantry on the floor in a mess, threw all of his clothes that I folded on the floor, I texted his best friends and his mom saying he was a two-faced cheater and that his character was deplorable etc.

I finally convinced him to talk with me in person today and he was distraught. We cried together a lot. I talked about all of our memories. He told me that he knows he f***** up so bad that our relationship is over and that there's no way that it's fixable. And I agree but I can't help but feel like I want to stay with him despite this. It makes no sense to me because I am very sensitive and I would even get upset about him watching porn or oogling attractive strangers so it's really hard to imagine feeling happy the way I was with him after knowing he's capable of lying to my face repeatedly and coming up with elaborate schemes (he even brought a change of clothes so he could change for the restaurant and then change back into scrubs before he came home). He says he knows he f***** up the best thing in his life and that he just wishes that he had done everything different, and I kind of believe him because we did just sign this to year lease and he's paying for me in full right now.

So I'm heartbroken and I feel like I could never be enough for him and that I could never trust him to not develop feelings for someone else, let alone not to act on them. All of the normal things people feel after this kind of breach of trust. At the same time I can't know whether he would have actually cheated if the opportunity were available to him even though it really seems like he would have. Also, I just love him so much and love the kind of relationship we had so much that it's really hard to just let go of. It feels like I'll never get to experience love like this, the kind of closeness that I'm used to and that feeling of security and stuff. We were not the type of couple that would talk about crushes or hot celebrities. And now I feel like that's all gone. But I don't think I could get that from anyone else either. I just don't know what to do. I tried so hard talking to him to justify to myself that I might be reasonable to try to work it out but the more I learned about everything, the harder and harder it became. Like I understand feeling attraction towards other people and maybe even having sexual thoughts about others, but thinking about cheating and wanting to have sex with him, I don't know if I could ever get that out of my head and feel good again.

But, like I said, I love him more than anything, I don't really have friends, I'm completely financially dependent on him and he makes far more than I will in years or ever, not that that really matters because I was happy when we were poor and my mom's basement. I'm just at a loss for what to do. I want to be able to stay with him but it feels like the only way I could even consider forgiving him is if I could somehow know that he really loves me and that I was more important than sexual urges that he had towards other people and I don't know how to get that evidence from him.

Thank you to whoever read this all.

I'm 27(m)and my girlfriend is 23. We've been together for about three years.

The first year was mostly good, but over time our relationship became increasingly unhealthy. We started arguing more and more, and eventually it felt like we were both resentful and constantly on edge with each other.
Early on, a lot of our arguments were about independence. She had a hard time understanding why I wanted to spend time with my friends or have time to myself, and those disagreements often escalated.

As time went on, I wasn't innocent either. I became resentful from all the fighting, and I'll admit that I started picking arguments over small things because I was frustrated and constantly expecting another fight. We were both contributing to the toxic cycle.

About six months ago, I decided I wanted to end the relationship because I didn't think either of us was happy anymore.
Whenever I tried to break up, she would bring up videos she'd recorded during our arguments. From my perspective, the clips showed me yelling back after she'd already been screaming at me, but they didn't include what happened beforehand. I know yelling isn't okay regardless, but I felt like the videos were being used to paint me as the sole aggressor.
She also told me that if I left, she would send those videos to my friends, my family, and even people at my workplace. Whether people consider that blackmail, coercion, or manipulation, I felt trapped. Every time I tried to leave, I felt like I was choosing between staying in a relationship I no longer wanted to be in or risking my reputation and personal relationships.

Last week, I went to Seattle and Vancouver with friends for the Club World Cup. One night I got drunk and ended up making out with someone else.
I know that was cheating. I'm not proud of it, and I'm not trying to say it was the right thing to do. I fully accept that I made that decision.
What I'm struggling with is that part of me feels like I only ended up in that situation because I'd been trying to leave the relationship for months and felt trapped. Another part of me thinks maybe I'm just using that as an excuse to avoid taking full responsibility.

I'm not looking for validation or for people to tell me cheating is okay. I know it isn't. I'm just trying to understand whether the context changes how you would view what happened.
Does feeling trapped in a relationship change how you'd view what I did at all, or is cheating still 100% on me regardless of the circumstances? If you've been in a similar situation, I'd appreciate hearing your perspective.

The link to part 1 will be below. But basically exactly what the title says. I found out when a friend saw the proposal on social media. We were in a 2 year relationship by that time…

So the second portion I didn’t mention was that when I found out we obviously broke things off for a few months. But as predicted she contacts me again and says her fiancée found out about us and he proceeded to break things off. She was fine with it according to her since she loved me and not him anyways. She supposedly realized what she had with me. I was very cautious communicating with her again. But she slowly came back in my life, and my dumbass took her back.

We never lived together, she lived with her parents at this time. Her parents are strict so I never came over, well so I thought. This is where it gets insane. I recently found out she was actually living with him this whole time even though they “broke up”. Fast forward another few months and guess what I see… elopement pictures. Yup this has been my life since Jan of this year. In constant misery. I never knew women could be this cruel and mask it so well. 5 total years together and knew her for 9.

There’s the link to part 1 if you want to read (not long, pretty concise).

https://www.reddit.com/r/cheating\_stories/s/PC1zXOFb4r

Long story short: my ex-fiancé (42) cheated on me while my father was dying. The other woman was a former student (24) at the university where I work. She knew my dad was dying, and she also knew he was my fiancé at the time.

Ever since I found out (thanks to one of her friends and also former student), she hasn’t stopped throwing shade and making passive-aggressive posts on social media that are very obviously aimed at me. It’s honestly giving immature mean girl energy, and I’m so over it. Like… girl, you’ve already shown you’re a heartless bad person. What exactly are you trying to achieve now? Are you an attention seeker?

They’re both terrible people, but for reasons that aren’t relevant here, I still have a tiny bit of respect left for my ex. Her? Absolutely none. She’s been taking digs at me for six months now, and my patience is running out.

Would it be a mistake to confront her and tell her to cut the crap once and for all? Or is ignoring her still the better option? I swear I've been patient enough...6 months like this.

Thanks.

Hello everyone, I’ve come here for an advice. I’m currently facing a very difficult times during my marriage. I’ll try to keep it as short as possible and try to include all the highlights of the story so you can understand the story better.

Okay, so I’ve been married to my husband for 7 years and we have a child and I’m currently 6 months pregnant with our second. Ive brought him from another country through a spouse visa 4 years ago, and ever since we started living here I’ve noticed him being secretive etc and to make it to the point, I have caught him through surveillance with another woman etc and other ig post likes, corn issue, and other texts with his clients that I find that cross the border. Anyways, up until now he’s always been apologetic and “regretful” of all those things and promised he wouldn’t give me any reason to doubt him. Everytime I kept forgiving him as you can tell. Because overall he seems like a good man, BUT he always hides his purchase, refuses to have shared bank account, turns off his locations randomly and he think these are all normal and that he shouldn’t be telling me where he goes or disappears when the location is off…

Recently, he had a 5 weeks trip overseas for a family matter back home, and it’s been 3 weeks since he’s back. And he’s been very cold, and we haven’t really had any intimacy. I have bought lingerie and surprised him couple of times and he claimed he was either tired or not in the mood. I believed that he was unattracted to me because of my pregnancy….. but also I noticed his phone is always on “do no disturb” mode when he gets home and during the day when he’s at work it wasn’t not in that mode. So, as a good wife I didn’t wanna start an argument and like Mel robins says just tried doing the “let him” theory and just observe.

Highlight of story‼️Coming closer to the point. So he came up with the idea that he wants to try modeling after his trip and said that a friend of his friend referred him to an agent and that she works with huge brands and that he needs to meet this person to see if she likes him. And a day before meeting her, she apparently referred him to a celebrity hairstylist and he goes and gets a haircut. After the appointment I noticed that his location was off, and I was like hm that’s weird because we agreed that he’d get a haircut and just come back home to grab breakfast, so he left at 9 am and came back home at 2 pm that day. And to the turned off location he says it wasn’t off his phone just died. Which is a bs because he’s addicted to his phone. But I couldn’t prove anything so I just ignore.

So the day comes and he goes to meet the “agent” at one of Weho’s well known upscale restaurants and I don’t think much of it. I truly thought it was an agent.

Fast forward to recent days, one of my gfs invited me to hang out and I cooked a fresh home cooked meal like I do every single day. And even though we weren’t talking due to a silly argument( he doesn’t wanna open a cc/debit card with me…. ) on my way there I texted him saying i picked up our child from school, there’s a fresh food waiting and that I’m going out with the friend that he knows.

So, he got off work & went to the gym. Oh forgot to mention that prior to that he was “preparing me” and saying oh my glutes hurt I need a massage. And I’m in medical field and always treat him, he never in these 7 years wanted to get a massage. I was like hm ok weird but okkk.

So, while I’m with the friend I check his location and notice that his location is off again. And it came back online about 2-3 hours after. And the next day, when I nicely ask how was the gym and how long he played for. He couldn’t answer. He was like oh I don’t remember blah blah. I asked why was your location off where did you go after the gym and he said home. But it was a lie. He kept denying it, but then said yes I went & didn’t want you to worry. 🤣 excuse me what?

After a lot of thinking and putting all the puzzles together, and checking his call logs, I realized that this supposedly “agent” woman calls him and he calls her all the time and they talk for 30 mins sometimes and it’s every day thing. I searched the number and it showed me a very well known popular salon in LA. She’s got a lot of followers & has a successful business. I’m 100000% sure that he’s sleeping with that woman. There are many other clues to the puzzles that I’ve been noticing and just putting it together. If I write them all I’m afraid no one will read it. 🥺 I swear I’m not crazy, I’m not being dramatic or jealous. It’s me just observing and seeing his reaction to me just asking regular questions and him getting very aggressive, cold, he even threw an orange juice on the front window of car while I was about to drive off because he thought he forgot his phone in the car…..

I’m honestly so lost and can’t believe I’m going through this. I wanna prove that he’s lying/cheating. Maybe the woman knows that he’s got a family and doesn’t care, maybe she doesn’t. How do I catch him? Because if I confront he’ll of course deny everything. Should I hire someone? Do I go and talk to her? ….. please I need your opinion, advice, words of wisdom, anything that you might wanna share will be helpful and appreciated. If you read the whole thing, thank you sm🥲🫶🏻

Hello. My aunt( uncle's wife) cheated on him since the day of their marriage and we uncovered a truth no one could imagine.

I never knew something like this could happen in my family. I only heard stories like this online. It feels like living in a movie.

So my uncle and aunt live in another country which is approximately 4000 kilometers away from our home country.

Anyway in January, 2022 my aunt suddenly came back alone with my cousin sister without contacting anyone.

She didn't meet anyone just setteled in her parents house. Even though we were just half an hour away. And we were all excited to meet our cousin sister since we never saw her in person.

It seemed suspicions. We all ignored it.

After a week my uncle arrived.

He told us everything. He said that they fought and she left him there without telling anything.

Anyway, my uncle tried to reconcile and say sorry and take her home. Aunt told everyone that my uncle cheated on her. He was very controlling, toxic and abusive. He never lets her go on a vacation. He can't perform in bed etc etc. Eventually rumours was circulating like fire.

Then she pulled another stunt.

She left her home with my baby cousin and stayed missing for a month.

Everyone was looking for her.

At that time, suspicions rose.

We all asked our uncle if aunt had any ambiguous relationship with anyone. He denied it. He tried so hard to protect her image.

Since he denied it every time we all believed him. Then she

sent divorce papers. He didn't sign it. Anyway divorce happened. They didn't decide anything on child support but he sent her unimaginable amount of money every month. And he owns 6-7 apartments. He rented them. All that money went to her.

Then we tried so hard to get him to move on.

Like take a break or start another relationship. Anyway he did nothing just said "yes I will but not now." etc etc. We gave up eventually.

And he went back to his job in abroad.

Now back to June 2026,

We got some ambiguous pictures of my ex aunt with a guy. The guy that my aunt cheated with sent them to some of our relatives. And it got viral immediately. Turns out she got married to this guy a few days after she went missing herself. They had a relationship of 17 years which means it goes long before she got married to my uncle.

We heard another story. Actually she and that guy eloped when they were in high school. But my ex- aunt's father caught them and put her in a house arrest.

After 3 years, she married my uncle.

One of my cousin sent the pics to my uncle. And he started to curse my ex aunt. We were scared what if he takes any wrong step since he was waiting for her to reconcile. So we scolded our cousin. A few days later, he came back to the country. We told him to let go and get into a relationship. But he said that he will eventually when the time is right.

Fast forward to present, we got to know that he is meeting our ex-aunt secretly.

The guy she cheated with, she divorced him and took everything he gave her. That guy spent 4 years with her in a marriage. He bought every single thing in the house. And she took everything even the curtains. He went to our aunt's(father's sister) home and said everything. That guy was crying for her. He was repeating one sentence over and over again."Tell him(my uncle) not to contact her. And she will come back to me."

Turns out my uncle knew that she had a boyfriend already. But he wanted to be with her so much. Later during their marriage he got to know about her cheating but he shamelessly continued his relationship with her. He even knew that she was with that guy after she came back to the country. Even when she went missing. He was acting like he knew nothing in front of us. Utterly shameless.

But still he let himself be the fish in her Fish Tank. He willingly became a part of her harem. How disgusting.

Now since that guy doesn't have money.My aunt divorced him. And she started pursuing my uncle relentlessly. My uncle being the second male lead in a heart wrenching novel forgives her.

She is the greatest gold digger, I have ever seen.

Two men just throw all Their money on her.

That's it.

I think We are going No Contact with uncle in a few days. Cause I believe he will cut all ties with us. My father along with his other siblings are trying to make uncle understand that she is only after his money and he should leave her. I think he already knows that but he loves her so much that he is willing to be a doormat forever.

I don't know what the future holds. I hope everyone is happy in the end.

basically, the title.

my roommate (19f) has been dating her current boyfriend since the summer before our freshman year of college, which makes their relationship 1 year this summer.

her boyfriend is a year younger than us, and half way across the country (they went to high school together). he applied to the same school as us, got in, and immediately accepted his offer.

he got into WAY better schools for his major. my roommate go to a top school for our major, and our school is known for being really good at comp sci/engineering. not health sciences. he is a psych major, and turned down top schools for psych undergrad to attend the same school as his gf, my roommate.

the thing is… she has been emotionally cheating on him basically the entire time, with a guy that she liked for years right before she started dating her current boyfriend. she cried abt this guy every night, even quoting the song “pushing it down and praying” — saying that her current boyfriend is stable but the other guy is deep. ouch. my roommate even stated that she’d be fine marrying her current bf, but would be really upset if that other guy married someone who wasn’t her.

this other guy isn’t oblivious to this either, he constantly flirts/sends mixed signals to her and leads her on. and she continued to play into it, even though her bf was right there. she admitted to me and my bf that she still likes this guy, even though her bf deadass committed to this school just for her :/

should i have told her bf about this? all my friends said they definitely would’ve, but i’m not sure if it was my place to :(

we are newly married, i did not mean to cheat , but my i was just bored and i found a very very attractive new crew girl and we slept together

Can you tell if a woman is unfaithful just by observing her gestures, facial expressions, and the way she dresses?

I am a 49 year old woman who has been married to my 53 year old husband for the last 20 years. I have never once gone outside of my marriage.

However, over the last few years, I have felt myself becoming more enticed by the attention of younger men.

There is a young bartender, maybe 27, who works at a bar that I frequent both with girlfriends and with my husband.

One day, maybe four months ago, I was there with a few friends. This was the first time I actually met him and chatted with him. He didn't know I was married at first and I saw him keep looking at me, smiling and just needing to be near where I was sitting. He eventually told me after making me a drink that he thought I was very pretty. Another bartender caught the drift and asked me where my husband was at. The other bartender then backed off but not before telling me I need to tell my husband he's very lucky.

Fast forward a couple weeks, my husband and I go in and I tell him what the bartender said. Maybe I was trying to make him jealous, because I ask myself why I did. But my husband became a little weird so I couldn't talk to him (we'll call him Mike). So when we'd go there, there was this tension between Mike and I but he never did anything disrespectful and I went out of my way to avoid him and not to look at him (at least when he was looking).

Because I think Mike is really attractive. He's a musician, tatted and just has that sexy indie look that I have always loved.

Fast forward today. My husband and I are there and he's there. I see him and find myself stealing glances when I can, both of us pretend we don't see eachother or don't know eachother.

Then, at one point, when my husband is looking on his phone but facing away from the bar, Mike stands directly in my line of sight. I look up and there he is, he pretends to just recognize me then, and smiles and waves at me. I wave back quickly. He then makes gestures with his hands that lets me knows he's complimenting my looks and what I have on.

That was it.

But, I spent the whole ride playing it over in my head. It’s such a dangerous feeling because I am flat out picturing us fucking. I've already played it out in my head. It makes me crazy just thinking about it.

I think just being desired by someone much younger makes me feel young myself. I think this is all a midlife crisis and I am trying to hold onto feeling young by seeing myself through his eyes.

I have always been approached by men based on my looks, but this particular man I feel I have a crush on.

I just want him for one night. It's fantasy I have and I can't stop thinking about it.

I know this is shitty.

But I just can't stop.

Mike: If by chance you're reading this, know that you do something to me that makes it dangerous for me to be around you. You entice me to the point it scares me to think of what I would do if you ever crossed the line. I imagine what you feel like, what you taste like, how you sound when you moan, if you're kinky or vanilla, I think about it all. I want to just devour you one time.

Don't get me wrong, I love him. He's been the most caring guy I've ever been with, he's the only one I find really beautiful,and the only guy I wanna be with. I didn't cheat on him because of some argument we had or because things weren't as good as before. I love him and I can't stand what I've done to him.

I was at a pride march with some friend's friends, and one guy ended up getting closer to me, saying how attractive I am, sending some signs throughout the day (for example I asked him if my ass was sweaty, mind you I was wearing white pants and GOD KNOWS any stain shows ×100, he said "nah but I'm not hiding at looking at it" so yeah I shouldve seen that coming)

When we got to his apartment, I took a shower, before I was finished he opened the door, asking if he could join, I was finished so I said no. At this point I saw clear through his little game and for some reason didn't stop as much as I wanted to. I think I liked the attention, I don't have a very high self esteem so a guy finding me attractive is kind of a jackpot. At some point he kissed me, but instead of pushing him, I just stood there, let him do, and just told him "I have a boyfriend y'know" he knew and kept going, and I let him kiss me.

At some point he was doing things to me, saying how much he wanted that all day, and when he started... eating my ass I burst out crying. I told him stop multiple times and I felt so guilty for my boyfriend, mind you we were both drunk.

We went to a party I accidentally bought a ticket for, met my ex, barely heard what he told me, and kissed that friend and one of his friends, to whom I vented, because I was LITERALLY CHEATING ON MY BOYFRIEND, he told me maybe it's a sign to open my couple, but tell him anyways. When we got back to his apartment, we were even more drunk and...yeah we kinda did it. Won't go in much detail but we both finished... I barely slept after that and feel sick to my stomach. The friend we have in common is a super nice girl and I sent her a message this morning to talk about it because I don't know how to process this. What should I do?

My boyfriend was out for a music festival or smth and he comes back next week and I have no idea how to tell him, because I don't reckon there's a good way to tell this kind of things.

Has anyone ever posted their husband or bf on this site on fb and found out they were cheating?!

Hi I’m open to testing

Boyfriend (M) and I (F) have been dating for some time now.

Yesterday I stumbled across a screenshot in his files. The screenshot looked to be an online dating site as it had the photos, names, and ages of other men. Some of the photos in the screenshot were inappropriate. The screenshot also looked like it was taken on an android but my boyfriend has an iPhone.

I’ve been cheated in the past (different relationship) but something about this just feels different.

Should I do some more digging to get my facts straight or do I confront him?

Im a cinephile, I love movies and its like an escape for me from day to day life. Even though romance genre is not my one of the top priorities but Ive watched some famous romantic movies, like titanic, notebook, recently mai vaapis aunga of imtiaz ali. And ive noticed a thing that in all of these movies atleast one character cheat on thier partner, to get with thier loved one, even if its concious or subconcious. We love to see those characters together, but just imagine the 3rd character and thier perspective. Even in imtiaz ali film, I know that guy had dementia and he was married out of his will. But god...its my biggest nightmare to marry a man and on his deathbed, its his teenage love who he remembers. Its just soul crushing, like think from the wife's perspective, she also had to marry a man out of her will, she gave him children, stayed with him, and he remembered his teenage love?? I know its not his fault, its his deeply suppressed longing and love for her, but I just cant imagine myself in that situation. Also if you see modern movies like wuthering nights, that women also cheats on her husband. Why one person has to suffer so the iconic couple can reunite?? And it terrifies me, when men say "they cant forget thier first love ever"..It TERRIFIES me. I just wish I never get married to a man like that.