I (42F) caught my dad cheating and never told anyone (my introduction to cheating)
I played travel softball growing up. Usually my dad would take me to out of town tournaments while my mom stayed home with my younger siblings.
This was back in 2000, I remember that for sure because I just got my driver’s license that spring. My dad took me to a tournament in Ohio, I think near Cleveland. I loved going to tournaments because all the families stayed at the same hotel and I got to spend so much time with my teammates, who were basically my best friends. Plus it felt less chaotic with just my dad and me sharing a room without my whole family there. I really loved those trips.
I could talk forever about this but it will be too long. I was hanging out with teammates at the hotel after our games were over for the day. I can’t remember why, but I went back to my room for some reason. This all happened so fast, after I opened the door. My dad was in top of one of my teammate’s moms.They were both naked but I surprised them, and they scrambled really fast to cover up. I remember my dad saying my name, but I just said sorry a bunch of times, covering my eyes and walked out.
I went back to the room where my team was hanging out after. I didn’t say anything about what happened. I slept in another room that night. The next day, still I was ignoring it, my dad didn’t talk about it at all.
Sunday night, my dad and I got back home and still hadn’t said anything about it. I didn’t really know how I felt. A few weeks past and I still didn’t tell my mom. I felt like I couldn’t.
Here’s the cruel, messed up thing, the woman my dad was with, my friend’s/teammate’s mom, she became so nice to me. Like, whenever she would have hair, nails, spa days with her daughter, I was always invited. I loved being with them. She seemed so amazing to me. I started to dislike my mom because she never did those things with me, and I hoped my dad would leave my mom, and married that woman. It never happened.
My parents are in their 70s now. Still together and happy. They are retired and take vacations together all the time. I don’t know if any of this has anything to do with my cheating ways, but I think I made to right decision to not say anything when I found out about my dad’s secret.