wife cheated virtually with a student.
so, my wife and me are both in our 40s, loving in Germany. we both game from time to time, I do so less because of work stuff right now..my wife met a Indian engineering student on discord who is half her age. somehow it clicked between them and they started emotionally cheating while I was working my ass off. she sent him nudes, sexting and the whole thing. no physical stuff because of distance....
.I found out because I saw a message incoming on her phone that had hearts attached and no female name I knew was the sender.
I didn't react to that's just got nervous. in the night, I took her phone and started a web session for the messenger on one of my devices with her account. I saw the whole thing. I took screenshots for evidence just in case. then I had a chance...
her phone was next to her o. the couch, her in the kitchen. I saw a message coming in and took the phone, saying in normal voice "oh, that's not mine" (we have the same phone make and model). she got a message from him. she stood in the kitchen kinda dumbfounded and I went "who is this?" and the whole drama started.
so now, 1 week later I still have access to her chat. she said she ends it, didn't. the sexual stuff stopped but they are in contact like every 2 minutes with something. nothing explicit, not badmouthing me or anything but she reacts to his messages more than mine etc.
I think they might have an inkling that I see messages even tho I'm never saying anything, I'm just slowly preparing stuff like lawyer appointments etc. and they talk in a roundabout way about switching over to another messenger that I don't have which my wife knows.
so, I fear that this is just going on and on and she will exit the marriage when he finished his studies or some shit. houselife is back to normal basically but she is good at hiding her conversations now.