F26 My M26 BF threw out his lunch. Do I save money or just leave?
I want to say that I know it’s my fault. I didn’t save any money. I had bad money habits from my mom and growing up poor. That’s not an excuse it’s just my fault. The relationship I’m in now also heavily contributed to that. I was doing long-distance for three years with someone who didn’t take the time to see me, so I put off getting a job and spent every penny I had on food/experiences with this person.
It was my idea that we move in together because I was tired of the unfair distance and we argued a lot. I’m starting to regret that decision. Ever since moving in it has just been an absolute nightmare.
My partner is someone that is noticeably always moody. He smokes lots of weed but cut back. When he smokes, I notice his personality change like he’s less caring. In general in the relationship, I just feel unappreciated. I’ve expressed this to him multiple times, but I don’t think it’s going to change so this was something that I thought I could accept.
Anyway, on my days off, I never wake my boyfriend up unless he just hears me in the bathroom. Every single day I am off he wakes me up trying to have sex or talks to me or asks me where stuff is. I’ve expressed to him that I find it very annoying that I can’t sleep in and I don’t mind helping him find things, but I wish he would try to get things together at night before work.
He tells me this morning that he forgot that there’s a happy hour after work because some guy is moving offices. I didn’t really say anything until I noticed he was waiting on a response for me and I just said “okay well I don’t have a say so just go.” then he tells me I do have a say.
(In all honesty, though I feel like I don’t because he gets mad if I say that something annoys me) so then I expressed to him that I am not mad. I’m just annoyed that he never has energy to do anything with me ever but he can do stuff like that.
Then I ask if this girl from his work is going to be there and he tells me he’s not sure. And I said well she makes me anxious. (The reason she makes me anxious is because she has asked for my boyfriend’s number to text him before & asks guys at work to borrow their coats & is pretty flirty) she has a boyfriend, but her boyfriend is a cop so I don’t think he gives her much attention.
He told me I pressed him and annoyed him.
This morning since he already woke me up, I noticed we ran out of lunch meat.
Anyway, I make him a bacon and cheese breakfast sandwich some chips and pack some candy in his lunch. He doesn’t each much in general my bf is very skinny and picky. I told him I’m sorry we’re out of lunch meat and this is what I made him for lunch and he says EW. I just thrown it in the trash at that point out of frustration. He kicks the trash everywhere making a gigantic mess for me. Leaves for work.
So everything has just been building up and I’m really just left with not sure what to do. Back home my parents are fine but they can be toxic and ever since moving out we get along great. I don’t have friends there anymore. I don’t want to use him for a place to stay but I’m not sure if I should just quietly save up my money and plan to leave or suck it up and go back home and be miserable for a bit.