To the person saying married gay Moroccans disappear: We’re here, we just moved on to a new phase of life
Hey everyone,
I wanted to reply to that comment about how Moroccans who marry gay men abroad just hide away and don't share their lives. As a Moroccan guy happily married to a local man in a Nordic country, I just wanted to give my perspective. It’s really not that we are hiding or looking down on the community, it’s just that our lives changed.
Years ago, when I was still living in Morocco, I used to check groups like this all the time. But once you actually move, settle down, and finally feel safe, your focus just shifts. Nowadays I’m busy looking for a good job, traveling, and just living life. I’m past that stressful phase, and honestly, I wish this exact same peace and happiness for everyone here.
To give you some background, I came to this country as a student. Coming from Morocco, the dating scene here was a shock in the best way possible. It’s so easy, safe, and straightforward to date gay men here. No passive-aggressiveness, no mind games, and people are just very simple and direct. Because people here grow up with decent childhoods without the trauma or violence a lot of us face back home, you really see the difference in how they handle relationships.
Honestly, dating was super easy for me as a foreigner. People really appreciated me, saw me as exotic, and I actually got way more attention than the locals themselves.
The way I met my husband was also surprisingly simple. I dated two people before him, and then I moved to a different city. Literally on my third day in the new city, I met him. At first, we didn't even know if we were dating or just friends. We just took it slow. After a couple of months I moved in, and by the next year, we were married.
Things are just simple and easy here when you're in the right environment. I’m not saying this to brag at all, I just want to give people some hope. We don't forget where we came from, but life moves forward. Keep pushing, and I hope you all get to experience a life where you feel safe, respected, and loved.