My MIL is a doctor and a kind lady overall, but she's a bit extra with the baby. Initially she was like baby will call her 'mummy' only, and call me 'mumma'. She also wants to be able to sleep with the baby after a point. She also started feeding fruit juice without my knowing. Like one day she juiced grapes, mixed with water and took the baby to the garden to feed. Then me and my husband put our foot down and said no to juices and giving him stuff without us knowing. Her feeding style is also very, what can I say, annoying!!!!
Some instances:
- She'll try to distract the baby by making funny sounds etc during meal time. I hate it. And at times, he cries also if she's too loud. I want meal times to be calm focused on eating and exploring food.
- She continues to try to feed even if the baby is crying thinking he's crying because he wants to eat more. But that's not trueeeee.
- She'll insert the spoon in his mouth without letting the baby come to spoon. I prefer responsive spoon feeding.
- It seems she has some fantasy to be able to feed the baby especially fruit juices.
So I do a lot of commenting on her methods on which she takes offence because she thinks being a doctor she knows better. So now, I've stopped feeding baby solids when she's around or I just go to my room and feed him. And on one hand I want to feed my baby in open, freely at the dining table but then she comes there and starts to engage baby in ways I don't appreciate like making noises or try to feed him herself in ways I don't like. But when I'm not keeping my baby at dining table for meals, I feel guilty also. It's very conflicting and it's making me a bit stressed unnecessarily
How do you manage conflicting ways to feed baby solids with your inlaws?