Ever feel like you exist around people, but not with them? 30M
I don’t even know when this started happening.
Slowly, I became the person nobody checks on first.
The person who sees plans after they already happened.
The person who listens to everyone but somehow never gets heard back.
What hurts the most is that I’m always present for people. I reply fast. I remember small details. I make efforts. But when it comes to me, it feels like I’m just… optional.
And after a while, loneliness changes you.
You stop texting first.
You stop sharing things.
You start overthinking every interaction.
You wonder if people secretly tolerate you instead of actually liking you.
The worst part is pretending you’re okay with being alone while secretly wishing someone would notice your absence for once.
I don’t know if this is adulthood, bad luck, or just me not fitting anywhere anymore. But lately I’ve genuinely felt unseen.
Anyone else going through this?