u/Adventuroustimer

lol I’m a 27(f) ftm born and raised in NYC and I haaaaate how horrible the housing market has become! For my own personal reasons (school& my mom) my credit is shot to shit, and although I’m working on repairing it, it takes time and I need to move and can’t. I’m not homeless thank God, my 3m old son and I live with family but he needs room to grow and I need space to live! I make 6 figures and still can’t find a place because of my credit situation which boggles my mind lol. What am I supposed to do? Besides the obvious fix my score. And I’m First Gen, I don’t have a guarantor:/ I just need a 1/2bd apartment until next June when we can move with his dad…

I, 27F, found out I was pregnant last October right after my bday & right after getting a super sick job. Guy I was seeing and who allegedly was sooooo in love with me didn’t want it but we ended up keeping it. We tried officially dating but he had this weird thing w his exes that I could not get past nor was he trying to get over and it caused us to break up. He, in one week, decided he no lover wanted to move in together and basically kinda left me for dead almost. Like I had to beg him to check in on me.

Fast forward to now: we had a baby shower in April that he totally ignored me at, told me he’d rather start a family w his ex that he swore he didn’t like anymore same week, and I’m stuck in NYC trying to find a place to move into pretty much by myself. I want to move to SC with my family so me n baby have support but he’ll be here within the next 5 weeks. I’m like super scared and alone and have been dealing with everything essentially by myself. I wish I would’ve known how this was going to pan out, I would’ve aborted it and left him alone. I actually tried to go to the clinic but idk I just couldn’t bring myself to do it and I regret it so deeply. I’ve been getting rejected by every apartment because of my credit and I’m just so sad. I want to make a good life for my son. But I fear I’ve ruined my whole life…

Edit: I’m from NYC! I haven’t left yet because I stay with my grandmother currently and my health insurance is up here. If I leave and have him down there, I’ll lose my insurance and maternity leave pay which I kinda need lololol… but yes I think I will be leaving in August :/