How do I (24M) get over gfs past (24F)
We both met after college, and have been happily dating for over a year. I trust her, we have no issues in our relationship. The only issue is with me.
Anytime I hear or think about her past, I get this defensive/jealous feeling and knot in my stomach. Finding old condoms in a college bag, seeing old posts, hearing stories of stuff she’s done… I hate the thought of her loving and being intimate with someone else the same way she is with me.
Now I KNOW it’s normal for people in college to do this stuff, she’s not doing anything wrong. She wasn’t wildly excessive or sleeping around, but normal college things. And I never bring it up to her as I know it’s in my head. But how do I get past these feelings?
I know a lot of people find partners that have had a history, and it’s completely common and normal. But how do you get past those thoughts and feelings?
TL;DR Our relationship is good, but I hate the thought of her with past partners hooking up and stuff. How do I get over these? I know it’s common for people who meet later in life to have had exes.