They're not scared of us because we're violent.
Women don't fear men because we're violent. It's because we are motivated and get things done when we want something, and that scares them.
Men typically set their minds to a goal and they hammer away until the task is done, but we don't stop there. We keep going and aim higher and higher where as women aim to get comfortable and stay where they are. They aren't suppressing men because we hurt them, it's because they know what we can do, and they get reminded about it every waking day because the world around them was built by men with a passion. Women look at each other and see competition, but men look at each other and see allies.
They realized that the only way to keep men down wasn't to see us for what we are. It was to make us look like something that we aren't.