r/MensRights

. . .but I kinda am & we have the right to celebrate every tiny victory we get. The World Cup just became the greatest Men’s advocate ever. . .& all we did was be ourselves!

The entire planet has eyes on America; going viral everyday for something new & something different. . .and every bit of it contradicts the image those in our own country have pushed out to the rest of the world.

I’ve seen 5 different videos from people visiting 4 different states flabbergasted at how single & groups of 2 or 3 women are able to comfortably walk around with no one harassing them or even speaking to them; wearing high end accessories, showing plenty of skin & loudly enjoying themselves. I’ve seen, at least, 15 videos mentioning no police or security being around where hundreds of people (obviously WOMEN included) were drinking, dancing, chanting & partying. There are COUNTLESS videos mirroring each other like:

“This guy just paid for our meal!”
“This guy just bought me & my wife drinks!”
“This guy just invited my family to a barbecue with his family!”
“This guy actually drove us to [whatever location] b/c he said we would get lost.”

. . .and sorry, ladies, but this is not hyperbole - they, literally, stated “This guy” every single time & not once “This woman/lady”; outside of greetings/conversation. The content creators from other countries are having a field day showcasing how evil some of the things said of Western / American men were, but even those with no agenda are carrying a monster torch for us, boys!

. . .and all we had to do was be us.

I'm married, 13 years. We have two wonderful kids, 8 and 10. I love my family and I love my wife. I really do. She doesn't want to have sex with me, she never was really into it and that was OK for me. Even if I have a lot more "drive"...was no problem because I love her and I can't change her. But now it's been years...YEARS....no other guy would take that right? I did...but can't go on. I told her, she doesn't care. I can not leave but I can not stay like this either...I don't think I need an answer from you....I just need some sympathy. I am devastated....

I came across an older video from Candance Owens and she was ranting how men today are too emotional. She gave the example of her grandfather not crying as funerals and that men should bottle it, always.

Now like probably everyone here I bottle up my emotions. I get that’s how things are. But I hate when women tell men because it’s for their sake and not men’s.

Also we have to deal with women’s emotional outbreaks all the time. Whether it’s temper tantrums, crying, pettiness, etc. I have a coworker who cries all the times, threatens to quit and she gets her way. If a guy shows anger he gets fired.

It a video talking about how men are not giving food our medical aid

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This study suggests people may still evaluate similar behaviors differently depending on whether the user is male or female.

The authors found measurable differences in disgust ratings, with male sextech users being judged more negatively in equivalent scenarios

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I think this kind of argument removes women’s agency. If a woman thinks another woman is overweight, why must that judgment automatically be interpreted as a man “looking through her head”? Aren't women capable of forming their own opinions, including critical ones, without being reduced to passive vessels of male influence.

If women praise each other’s appearance, is that also men speaking through them, or does female agency only disappear when the opinion is negative?.

It's contradictory to argue that women need to be recognized as fully autonomous individuals while simultaneously claiming that their own thoughts are merely men speaking through them. Either women have agency, or they don’t. You can’t champion one principle and abandon it whenever women express opinions that feminism finds inconvenient.

They site some stats which claims 95% of violent crimes are done by men. But is that good enough to discriminate against men? According to them, if we commit more crime, it's okay to discriminate against us and treat each of us as potential risk factors.

Was wondering, how to respond to this.

Great article that argues Australia's Family Court has been captured by feminism. Instead of caring about children, it just plays out the same script in 86% of cases: Woman alleges DV -> Court does whatever she wants.

 And Britain is going the same way.

I believe that despite the very popular and frequent view that all men want is sex, I believe that is wrong, though, due to many conditions it is easy to pick up that view.

Many conversations about male loneliness or even the incel community focuses on the lack of sex and male’s desire for sex, but I belief that the reason that the conversation always goes there is because it is more socially acceptable for a man to openly want to have sex, but it is less socially acceptable for men to openly want some of the other things that they would get to do in a relationship, like the daily companionship of living with a woman, or getting to sleep next to a woman most nights in a non sexual way.

I think many men who are lonely and single and unable to find a partner, even some of the incels, desperately want these non sexual aspects of a relationship, but feel unsafe in expressing those desires outwardly, so it all gets wrapped up and expressed under the cover of sex.

Anyway, I’d love to hear any of you people’s thoughts on this, and if you think I’m wrong and mistaken I’d love to hear why you think so. Thank you all for engaging if you do.

Has it been tough being a man there?

I take an Aristotelean perspective to this issue, like others on my channel, searching for balance in a sea of extremes.

I'm interested in people's views, and appreciate any support for my YouTube channel.

The NEW dating etiquette

These rules are to be applied in the beginning until you establish a respectful, mutually beneficial dating dynamic.

Some background context for these rules:

There's no gender pay gap -- argue with your momma OR hire a lawyer and sue the companies paying women less for the same work because it's illegal.

Women and men are COMPETITORS in job markets, housing markets, etc. Women also still benefit from norms and laws that favor women over men (the draft, custody law, funding for health research, etc).

For these reasons, if a woman isn't contributing value to the shared dating experience from the beginning, she is a selfish leech that should be cut off.

Remember, what's universally fair and morally right is reciprocity. If the relationship doesn't feel reciprocal, then cut it off.

The rules:

1. No "dinner dates" for the first date unless she's co-paying or driving 1 hr + out of her way to your neck of the woods.

2. If you go to multiple venues in the same night, or have multiple rounds of drinks, and she doesn't take turns paying, then drop her. She's not "partner material".

3. If she routinely, passively sits by when the bill arrives (meaning, she leaves the burden of figuring out payment on you), then drop her. She's not "partner material".

4. If she suggests you pick her up or send a car for her, then drop her. Are you her chauffeur?

5. If she insists that you get out of the car to open her car door, then drop her. Are you her chauffeur?

6. If you've covered the last date, and she doesn't cover the next one, then drop her. She's not "partner material".

7. If she declares celibacy before the date then do not take her on one.

8. If you propose a specific date idea, and she responds with a non-committal placeholder like "I'll let you know closer to the day," then do not leave the slot open. Take the option completely off the table immediately.

9. If she's playing games on a dating app (ex. Providing 1 - 3 word responses; not showing curiosity about you; not contributing to the conversation), then do not invite her out.

10. It does NOT matter who invited who out. The golden rule is do onto others as you would want done onto you (i.e. reciprocity) so if she's not reciprocating, then cut her off.